my ex and I split up in April, it was a big shock to me, we were blissfully happy and I had no idea anything was up until he dropped the bombshell that he was going back to his ex. I then found out 2 weeks later that I’m pregnant. Initially he didn’t take the news well and wanted me to have an abortion, he then retracted that and said he was manipulated by his ex and forced to say that to me (I know he is his own person and makes his own mind up so I wouldn’t be accepting that). So he said he would be there for me and the baby and he would do his best. He then split up with his ex a couple of months later and started asking me if he could come to scans and be more involved, I agreed but said I wanted to meet him first to talk as we hadn’t seen each other in months at this stage and he agreed but last minute cancelled the meeting and didn’t turn up to the scan.
fast forward to now, I am 32 weeks pregnant and I haven’t heard from him in 2 months. Things got a bit much for me last week and I tried to contact him but he totally ignored me. I won’t chase after him, I haven’t throughout this pregnancy so far and I won’t but it’s really really hard. I don’t understand how he can change so much from the man I was in love with and how he can just totally ignore me when I reach out.
I know my baby will bring so much happiness and joy and I’m doing everything I can to be strong for my little boy but I still have so many days where the hurt and pain just overwhelm me, it feels so unfair.
so, I thought I would come on here and share my story
So sorry to hear what has happened to you especially whilst being pregnant.
My ex has just walked out on me and my 7 month old baby and we were like you happy so it has come as such a shock to me too (he’s had a mental health breakdown) but has since left the country and I have had contact since this happened a month ago
I know it’s easier said than done as I’m struggling quite a bit at the minute but try keep strong. Your baby will have everything he or she needs and be loved just the same by having you as it’s Mummy.
If you need anyone to talk too or even rant too feel free to drop me a message.