Struggling

[MissStar1]

Finding it really hard to cope every day when all my brain wants to think about is how my husband is still in a relationship he ended our marriage for. Incredibly sad.

[Westernchampion]

I know the feeling when it is all you can think about. I used to try doing things that would clear my mind, decorating and gardening worked for me. Working helped also and household chores. Writing down how I felt helped too and talking about it as much as you need to.

[MissStar1]

Thanks Westerchampion. I am trying to keep busy but most the time I just want to curl into a ball. The pain of the betrayl hurts so much. He is getting on like 10 years of marriage never happened. I don’t want to be sad I just don’t know what to do.

[Adam_1982]

I know the feeling about betrayal, it is incredibly hard to deal with. This time last year I found out my now ex wife was cheating. It lead to a quick divorce as she confirmed she’d had enough of the marriage. It’s still difficult to comprehend but what I have found helped me at times is looking at the part I played in the marriage failing and also thinking that perhaps there were incompatibilities in the relationship. I guess all we can take going forward is the lessons learnt. Easier said than done at times but that’s my experience anyway.

[MissStar1]

Adam_1982. Yes I am sure I am not perfect but I just don’t think there is ever an excuse to cheat and I think when you are with someone that length of time you owe it to them to at least try together to make things work before giving up. ;-(

[Adam_1982]

I know how you feel. I tried all I could to reconcile but in hindsight did all the wrong things. The best chance of getting someone back is acting like you don’t care and moving on. If you try to chase it very rarely works sadly.

[MissStar1]

I know there is no chance of reconciling as much as I love him I could never trust him again anyway. I just don’t know how people can do this to each other. I wish Icould just turn my feelings off.

[Adam_1982]

It is definitely shocking how people can just disregard something so easily. It is very hard to deal with, I definitely can feel your pain there. It does at times feel like an uphill battle to pick yourself up again. Sorry you are having a hard time of things, it’s not easy I know.

[MissStar1]

Thanks Adam_1982

[Poppy]

Hi there Missstar1,

Thanks for your post and welcome to our amazing community of single parents. We just wanted to let you know that we’ve dropped you an email with some information that might help, as it sounds like you might need to reach out for some expert advice to help you through this. Please take a look when you have a moment. We’re sorry to hear that you’re struggling and that things are so tough for you right now. We hear you and you aren’t alone. It’s so important you take positive steps to stay safe and well, and we think you deserve to be supported and get the right help to get you through the ups and downs.

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[MissStar1]

Thank you Poppy. It is nice to speak to people going through similar situations because I do feel so alone.

[KLP]

Hello,

I can relate. I’m 24 weeks pregnant and found out recently my partner was lieing and cheating for the whole duration. Knowing he’s still with her is really difficult for me to get my head around especially as we were so happy, there were no signs

[MissStar1]

KLP it’s just awful. It’s an awful situation and I feel for you with the baby on the way. You will have your hormones to deal with as well as everything else. I wish I had a button that you could switch to just forget about them but there  is no such thing. Everyone says it gets easier, let’s hope so.Your baby is lucky to have you and your going to be a great mum

[GeorgieH123456]

Hi I totally get how isolating the separation is. My husband was emotionally abusive and I ended the relationship to protect the children. Within 5 days he was dating and even though I ended it it I feel so hurt that he could simply move on to pastures new do quickly. I also find it difficult to deal with everyone else constantly updating me on what he’s up to, who he is seeing and the horrible things he’s saying about me and the children. It just all feels so unfair.

[MissStar1]

Hi Georgie, yes it’s really unfair. It not being able to make a clean break because of the children. I feel like it’s an open sore that every time I have to see him reopens. Tell those people who want to tell you stuff about him that you don’t need to hear any of it and that you are moving on with your life x

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