29 July 2018 at 7:06 pm #13962
Feeling lonely and sad my boys are on a weeks holiday with there dad until this Friday and I’m really feeling it as this is the first time he has had them for this long his choice and the longest I’ve been apart from them both. Before anyone tells me when he is entitled to it I know hence why they are there but doesn’t stop how I feel.
I’m still working this week so hoping it will go quick but there’s only so much housework I can do and haven’t got a huge circle of friends or they don’t want to go out as all in relationships or married. What do you all do when your kids are with there other parent for the week?29 July 2018 at 7:51 pm #13963
Hi H, I know exactly how you feel. I hate being away from my kids they went Friday and are coming home Monday. My social circle is non existent (one friend who I only talk to on the phone occasionally, and one who’s suffering with epilepsy). Was hoping to see the one this weekend but he’s to Ill unfortunately.
i spent time doing house work, listening to music and watching nothing on tv. Then yesterday I said to my self I’ve had enough of this so went in to town walked in to a bar and walked on to the dance floor and spent 4hours there by myself. Then as the bar was closing a woman who was with her partner said hi as we were walking out and invited me to hit up a club with them. Ended up talking to them both and dancing with her for about 3 hours.
i didn’t go out with the intention to meet women or anyone for that matter, just wanted to be out of the house and I had a pretty good night.
Just because your alone doesn’t mean you can’t have a good time.29 July 2018 at 8:27 pm #13964
I know it’s just hard I suppose once I’m used to it I’ll feel better but first time is 😢. I wouldn’t have to confidence to do that I walk round the town on my own and can go for a coffee but couldn’t go in and dance by myself that’s for sure.29 July 2018 at 8:50 pm #13965
It’s the third time for me. And the last time I spent home alone, the person other than my kids that I speak to most is my ex.
i haven’t got confidence, and if I hadn’t been approached and spoken to I wouldn’t have spoken to anyone. I also can’t dance.
i just had to do something.
As for you why? Ye I know bars and clubs can be a breeding ground for unwanted attention for a woman, but women are also generally more protective of each other. I’m sure you could join in with a group of women for drinks and conversation, just say your friend cancelled last minute and you didn’t want to look vulnerable to any creeps or something.
try to look at it as it’s time for you. And try to do something for you.
besides being alone in a bar dancing badly beats sitting alone looking at a darting app and never getting a reply, for me anyway.
Be bold have no expectations and just say to yourself it beats doing nothing at home.29 July 2018 at 9:02 pm #13966
Weekdays aren’t as bad as places open longer I don’t really drink so would look silly with a glass of coke lol.
Need to start thinking of things I can get involved in really29 July 2018 at 9:07 pm #13968
I wish you all the best, and hopefully others can help you with better advice than me.30 July 2018 at 5:07 pm #14006
sorry to hear you were struggling. I would be the same but I’ve found that exercising helps a lot and keeps things in perspective. Maybe that’s something you could consider…30 July 2018 at 7:27 pm #14012
I do walk alot and it does take my mind of things temporarily but just get lonely as so used to having them here and first full week but I will have to just get used to it.30 July 2018 at 9:34 pm #14015
You’re very brave because that must be really tough. Let me know how you are managing if you like
take care30 July 2018 at 9:47 pm #14016
Meet up groups do alot of activities from walking trips to going to the theatre . I must admit I did join up before I had my daughter but now it’s juggling work with home life . Some of these activities are free so it’s worth joining