Hi i recently seperated from husband of ten years. Im struggling emotionally have history of depression and anxiety. Within a week of seperation i had death in family and recent family diagnosis of cancer. As well as this im a student nurse who just been failed on placement. I thought my children age 8 and 9 were coping well, however son been struggling i feel. He giving loads attitude out and i feel bad cos end up shouting at him. I dont no what to do anymore. Everything’s seen to gone wrong at once, also.struggling with finances after claiming universal credit. Who only paying half rent.
Ex being about same as was when married barley see him, has kids sat night whenever he finishes work so sometimes late. Pays bit money to kids but with the school, outgrowing stuff and alctivities its gone within week
I think sometimes we’re so busy looking after the kids we forget to look after ourselves. Self care can be really important and we need to make sure we’re in a good, healthy, strong position to be able to look after our kids.
If you think you could benefit from a spot of counselling, go for it. If you think antidepressants might help you stabilise, give them a whirl. If it’s a case of getting out of the house more (difficult in this weather I know, try and make it happen). You’re going through a tough time so be kind to yourself.
Take a little time to sit down and figure out where you can look after you a bit more.
Maybe have a chat with your son and see if you can figure out where he’s coming from. Do you manage to get 1:1 time with each of the children separately? Maybe 10 mins per day just talking about their day?
I completely feel your pain, not only with the crazy everyday life stuff going on for you but all the pressures student nurses are under. I don’t think folks comprehend how much this alone affects your mental wellbeing. I had it pretty tough too during my student days but I live to tell the tale, you’ll come out the other end stronger than you went in.
If there’s anything I can help you with ‘nurse wise’, just to offload or academic wise then PM me, just know that being single, with little support and big responsibilities (home/kids) doesn’t have to equate to quitting. Complete what you set out to do, and that’s qualify 🙂 You’ll be so proud of yourself when you do