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    Vicky88
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    Hi I’m new and struggling with the fact my husband has done would like to talk to people I live in Gloucestershire

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    DavR
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    Hi Vicky88

    hope this finds you well or as well as can be! It’s an awful feeling when someone makes this choice for us.

    my wife did a very similar thing, it’s earth shattering. I’m 19 months down the line and still can’t figure it because she won’t give them. So my advice would be stop trying to work it out. And don’t look to blame yourself or him.

    Turn to family and friends you’ll soon find that comfort will come from talking it out and not internalising your feelings

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    Vicky88
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    Thank you I hope your doing better. I don’t want to live with out him.

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    Ellizabee
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    Hi Vicky88,

    Hope you’re holding up okay. I still can’t believe my boyfriend left me and I was 36 weeks pregnant at the time. I’m still trying to get past it and, I’m imagining like yourself, I can’t help but hold onto some sort of hope that it was just a dream and that we may get back together.

    But, honestly, after a few weeks I have realised that the best course of action is to take the time to focus on yourself and let go of that hope because it is a barrier to feeling better. We may end up back together one day – my parents got back together when my brother was 6 months old – but, that’s because they both had space and focused on themselves and it was a natural progression of things.

    My only advice is try on focus on remembering who you are and what you enjoy and focusing on your relationship with your children and any family you have. That’s what I’m trying to do, not always successfully, but it’s all about trying!

    Good luck and I wish you all the best!

     

     

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    Sandra
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    Hi Vicky88

    My name is Sandra and I am one of the moderators. I am sorry to hear you are struggling right now. I will send you a private message as it’s important you get some help and support, and take care of yourself.

    best wishes

    Sandra

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    DavR
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    It’s an awful feeling but I agree with the above comment, wish I heard it at the beginning “ take the time to focus on you)

    you have to look after yourself and perhaps in time your ex will explain and or even apologise because ultimately he’s made a decision without you.

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