Struggling

[J9@gmail]

So I’m 3 years down the line. My partner walked out on me and our two children (1&3 at the time) for another woman. It was a complete shock and I had no idea he was unhappy in our relationship. It doesn’t help that this woman was not a stranger to me. They have since married and I’m still struggling to come to terms with it. Whilst they seem to have moved on and seem to be really happy together I find that whenever my children go to there’s for the weekend I just sit in and while away the time until they come home again.  I sit in and imagine them all doing lovely family things together (she has 2 children as well). I don’t want him back and I’ve come such a long way since we split, I’ve got a promotion at work, I’ve brought a house for me & the kids but I just can’t seem to get a life back for myself. I just keep thinking that what they’re all doing together should be my life. I desperately miss the kids when they’re away and never thought I’d have to be dealing with not being with my children all the time. Is there anyone in a similar position?

[Ana81]

Firstly, sorry to hear you’re going through this upset, but I promise you it will pass. Sometimes it’s almost like the final chapter closing if that makes sense.

Im currently on my own 6 months pregnant and I’ve been told the baby father has met someone now.

Have you thought about dating again? X

[J9@gmail]

Ana81 thank you for replying. I hope you’re ok? That must be really hard being pregnant and knowing dad is with someone else.
I have tried dating but find it so hard. I work full time and the kids take up a lot of my time. I think my self confidence has taken a massive blow so I don’t have a lot of confidence getting back out there. I have friends, I have a good life I generally have nothing to moan about. I just want to be a family with my children And the thought of my children’s father having that family life with another woman and my children makes me really sad x

[Ana81]

It’s bound to make you sad. You have your little family, and there’s nothing worse than being out with the children and seeing ‘families ‘ together while you do it alone.

Youre doing an amazing job, working full time and raising a family is no easy ride yet you’re doing it.

enjoy these moments and slowly start doing something for you each day.

You’re confidence is bound to be broke, but that doesn’t mean you can rebuild. X

 

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