Still get on OK with the ex

[roger]

Hi Reading through the forum I realise how lucky I am that I have a good relationship with my ex as far as seeing my daughters go

It’s really painful reading about relationships that have totally broke drown with one parent not getting to see there children

Roger

[Julie123]

Hi Roger, after reading a lot of peoples stories, it’s nice to hear a positive,that you have both managed to keep a working relationship, for the sake of your girls. I was beginning to think that it is impossible, what with my experience, along with others. I think in an ideal world, children should be thought of first, but life just seems to get really messy! I was trying to keep it amicable, but my husband (soon to be x hopefully) has other ideas! Its always hard on the children, you just hope that it doesn’t effect too badly.

[roger]

Hi julie

It’s not easy getting along I’ve talked to other dads who get along with ex wives and they sometimes think it’s harder in a strange sort of way

I guess my ex and I have tried to put the children 1st and not have things impact on them so much

 

 

[Julie123]

Hi Roger,I think you should be proud of yourself that you have put your feelings to one side, and concentrated on your daughters. In a ideal world, it would be lovely if it was that simple, I think as well if a 3rd party is involved, early on, it can get nasty. My husband isn’t allowed to have contact with the children,(social services have got involved) due to his violence. He isn’t wanting to change, so that he can have a relationship with them, They feel that he has let them down. I have tried to encourage him,. It’s taken along time, but we are all better and calmer for it.I do worry how it may have effected them, my eldest daughter has recently got married and he’s lovely, so hopefully that will be a positive for marriage!! We are trying to walk on the sunny side of the street!! Julie

[Liolint]

Hi Julie, it’s hard reading what you’re going through, but it’s good you’re choosing to walk on the sunny side of the street. I do hope your husband gets the help he needs and gets better for all of you.

[Julie123]

• Hi, Liolint, thank you for your thoughts, I am trying not to let the negatives define me. After many months, we have excepted that he won’t change, he blames everybody else, until he sees that he has a problem, nothing will change. Shortly after moving out, he found someone else, that also has girls, so I think that he has just replaced the family unit. I am fine about it now, I just feel sad, from the girls point of view. How are things with you?

[roger]

I like the statement

We are trying to walk on the sunny side of the street

But it’s never easy

[roger]

I like the statement 

We are trying to walk on the sunny side of the street 

But it’s never easy 

[Julie123]

Hi Roger, I keep trying to walk on the sunny side of the street, but it keeps raining lately!! Ha, Ha. I try and find one positive for each week, some weeks  it’s harder. How are things with you, regarding covid, are you still able to see your daughters? Julie

[roger]

Hi julie

Yes I’m able to see my daughters which is great

So that’s a positive

 

[Julie123]

That is definitely a positive. I feel sorry for people that are totally on their own, very isolating. I have my 2 daughters at home, 15 and 19.my son and other daughter live have their own places, so it’s been hard not seeing them, fingers crossed for Xmas.

[roger]

Yes I’m not getting my hope’s up for Christmas

I think we need to get rid of covid even if it means not seeing friends and family

 

[Julie123]

Hi, Roger, i think you could be right there. It’s very surreal! I think if you’re going through a tough time, covid has definitely made it harder. I have been using lockdown to try and catch up with all the odd jobs around the house and garden . I find keeping busy helps. The dog hasn’t had so many walks!!

[roger]

Yes it’s been a very strange time julie

I’ve been lucky with work as that i wasn’t furloughed

But for many people it’s been a really difficult time

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