Its good if you can maintain a good relationship, I really wish I could but I wasn’t able due to his behaviour, it’s mentally exhausting and I’m strong. I ended up in court having an occupation order granted. Initially I thought I’ll just block him on social media but we had mutual friends and they were doing screen shots and sending them to me, good intentions but it made me feel worse. I’ve been off now for 4-5 months and I’ve realised all the people who care about me are still in my life. My life is very private which I think irritates the ex as he longer knows what I’m up to with the kids. He has no idea whether I have another partner. This man twinned our phones without my knowledge and was intercepting all my messages and tracking me through GPS, that was after our separation. He’s mentally deranged so I only have sympathy with his new partners, but they will learn for themselves. It’s usually difficult if your relationship ends and it’s not a mutual decision, my mum once said to me when I was younger that it’s the memories you’re in love with, nothing can take those away but it’s time to focus on the future, learn to be comfortable with who you are and try to socialise in new circles. I went and passed my CBT this year in a moment of madness, I’ve never ridden a motorbike in my life prior to this and I have to say it was absolutely fab!