Staying over night!!

[Hayley17Participant]

My sons dad chose not to have his son over night from a year old, my boy is now 7 and his dad has now decided he wants over night contact. Which my son is saying no too. But dad is saying it must happen, any advise, I really don’t want my boy to feel uneasy. 

[KathymumofoneParticipant]

You could email him, timed & dated explaining your son’s distress and suggest a gradual “getting to know” period to build the relationship back up again.

Try to get that in process so the court can see you have tried to be reasonable, and then let him take you to court!  I bet he won’t because you have been entirely fair.

[Hayley17Participant]

He has had him in the day but always brought him home at bedtime as he “needed a life”

[KathymumofoneParticipant]

So he “needed a life” and that was ok, but now your child needs some reassurance and that isn’t!   Let me guess, he has a girlfriend and wants to demonstrate how he’s such a great dad.

Can you suggest that he does bedtime routine at yours a few times – bath, story etc – and he might try asking his child to chose bedroom stuff for his house – Dinosaur duvet, night light, pjs etc.

Or you could just tell him NO (tempting)  but that might not be responsible in the long run 🤔

[Hayley17Participant]

Thank you for all your help. I hunk asking him to do the bedtime routine at my house is a great idea, it’s getting my son to say yes he’s happy to sleep is my aim. Is dad is saying he will just force him into sleeping. I would feel better with my son being happy and making it his decision to stay. A perfect world would be lovely lol

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