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    Iand
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    I have a difficult decision to make and I would like to ask for some advice. I have been  single parent for the last 3 years. I originally asked advice here when I split with my ex and since then I have found a great job and have had a very warm and caring nanny to look after my son

    I don’t work long hours and have long holidays (university), so me and my son (10 years old) get a lot of time to spend together. The problem is that we live abroad. I am starting to think it would be a good idea to move nearer to them however I would not be able to get work like I have now which would provide everything that we need and give me as much free time with my son.

    My ex is basically a chocolate fire guard, so we have made our relatively happy life on our own. However, we are far away from everyone. Any advice is appreciated on whether to move back or stay.

    Thanks

    #23894 Report

    Iand
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    Sorry, when I said move nearer to “them” I mean my family in England.

    #23903 Report

    Iand
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    Wow, that was a great response. Thank you very much. We go back quite a lot ( around 3 times a year) and my son goes to a British school here,so the curriculum is exactly the same as the UK. I agree that I would not see my family all the time if I went back to England , but then the advantage is we (or I) would not feel we are away from everyone. Either way, you brought up some great things to think about.

    Thanks for for your advice.

    #23909 Report

    Iand
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    Thanks. Same to you.

    #23939 Report

    BECKSHARMS48
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    Wow Anonymous smashed it outta the water with her response.. So I’ve not got much to add.

    But I do understand that being close to your family here in the uk would mean that in times when you need emotional support they’d actually be able to see you which is so much more than a phone call or face time. Or if you just wanted to pop round with your son for a cuppa tea or Sunday lunch or impromptu family events that you dont get to be involved in living abroad.  These are memories that mean so much and are priceless.

    Helps build a person’s foundation for having a sense of self. Bonds of love and support from family which are actually with you and not on the phone.

    I understand what you mean.  Have you tested the water with your son.  Put feelers out to him. May be a social story. Help him understand and talk about it.

    You never know he may want to have family around him close by.

     

     

    #23966 Report

    Iand
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    Thanks for the advice. My son is happy to stay here and also like England.

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