Standard access of one day a week and every other weekend…. help please

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    Jellybean
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    My question is, how does this arrangement work over the Christmas holiday period when set in a court order (pending). I would  have no desire to change the arrangement  but it would mean eventually my child will stay with me over the Christmas period and that wouldn’t go down well with the ex. Is it just tough? communications broke down some time ago.

    #17989 Report

    Jellybean
    Participant

    Thanks for the reply….. Can I also ask, before applying to the courts what are the typical acceptable general access requests for a non residential parent ?

    Every weekend ?

    Every other weekend ?

    Every other weekend and one day weekly ?

    Full week / miss a week ?

    Full week / miss two ?

    I understand it’s a situation thing but are any of the above more desirable or generally not acceptable for a non residential parent ?

    #17994 Report

    TrevCarp
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    Its nice you are actually considering the other parent, I would recommend using the season, to try and build a little bridge, and wouldn’t the chrisms season be a perfect time.

    Its so hard when communication break down, because uhntimatlly the children do suffer. Propose alternative christmases.

    But also you have to look at if the children may be with you this year but don’t mean it will be the same the next few Christmas , as it fulls on different days every year, unless you always to have your children on the 25th…..

    Its never easy because one will seem to have the control on setting, I do believe court orders should be for a minimum, never a maximum, as it makes them harder in the future and have no flexibility.

    Not sure if I have helped, but hopefully a little food for thought.

     

     

    #17995 Report

    Jellybean
    Participant

    Thanks Carp, I’m not bothered about what days over Christmas.. to be honest I’d prefer access after the initial fuss. It just needs to be put into the final outcome. Just not sure what exactly to request?

    #17996 Report

    TrevCarp
    Participant

    Request more, than you be happy with, and use it to compromise.

    You are the only one to know what you can achieve, remember, it has to be achievable financially as well a every time with out fail

    Ask for it to be minimum, and not maximum.

    Defiantly get set down special occasions.

     

    #17997 Report

    Jellybean
    Participant

    Good words TrevCarp. Will do thank you.

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