Split with unmarried ex and he took a copy of sons birth certificate
20 May 2020 at 7:13 pm #40173
Hi all, this is my first post, i have been split up with my ex now forvover a month however he only moved out on monday as i was willing to try and make it work for our son, how ever that did not go to plan like it never has every single time we try to better our relationship, to my point though, basically my ex made it very difficult for me to get the keys back to my son and i’s home so i had to phone the police and pack all of his belongings, he REFUSED to come to the house to collect it so the police had to take it to him just so i could get my keys back, he has nowhere to put all of it as he does not have a place to live ( i spoke to the council about this and said he could stay until they found him somewhere but he refused the offer and did not want to come back) yet he asked to take our jointly owned tv and Xbox that i need for to entertain my son whilst i am cleaning around the house and he is in his jump-a-roo, anyways, i packed all of his belongings today and the police took them and returned my keys but he asked to take a copy of my sons birth certificate as he is down as his father, i was just wondering what can he do with this? We are both only young im 20 hes 19 and my son is almost 7 months old, our relationship was clearly finished by the time my son was born into this world, admittedly we were only together for 2 weeks and i fell pregnant but i couldnt get rid of him due to past experiences with a different ex, but i have tried to make our relationship work the whole time even through out my pregnancy but it just seemed like he didnt want it, he told me before my son was born he didnt mind being a part time dad, what i really need to know is what can he do with that copy of my sons birth certificate?? Can he take my son away?? I dont think he can but obviously he has parental responsibility as i stupidly put him on the birth certificate, but what does that mean, my son lives with me, if his father wanted to take him off me what could he do? I dont think this is the case as i offered him to stay here whilst the council found him a place so he could be around his son too but he did not want to come back here, i reported him not giving me my keys to my house back to the police and they have resolved the issue but they could see how difficult he was being for no reason(they even said that they didnt understand why hes making it so difficult) and neither do i as i sent him a text this morning clarifying as politely as possible that i wanted the Keys for my house back and the council had informed me it was theft as he is not the named tenant of the property i am, im just curious as to how easy it could possibly be for him to remove my son from me, sorry if i rambled a little bit ive never gone through this before as this is my first child and obviously i love him so much and want to make sure that he is safe and looked after and loved by me, any help/advice or answered you may have would be greatly appreciated, thank you so much for taking the time to read this.21 May 2020 at 12:29 pm #40194
Thank you for posting here on the forum. I’m sorry you are going through this at this time. Our single parent helpline has a team of trained advisers that will be able to help you to explore your issues. I hope this gives you some help.
Here are their details and I wish you well for the future. Justine
• Gingerbread Single Parent Helpline – Freephone 0808 802 0925
Opening hours: Mon 10 – 6, Tues 10- 4, Wed 10 – 1 & 5 – 7, Thurs 10 – 4, Fri 10 – 4 They can be busy so callers can expect to wait up to 20 minutes before the call is answered.22 May 2020 at 8:22 am #40216
Do you know why he might be asking for it? Proof of parenthood, to try and claim something perhaps?