hey don’t know if anyone can help, my son is 6 almost 7 (a very grown up 6-7 year old) I have been a single parent from the start, his dad was very much involved until my son reached 2, he then disappeared didn’t hear from him until just before my sons 6th birthday. He contacted me and we talked, he then came to see our son every week for 3 months, during our talk I got him to sign some paper work I created stating days and times of visits and a small breakdown of maintenance payments he would pay me. He agreed to all of this and signed and said even if our son didn’t want to have a relationship with him he would still pay regular payments to provide for his son.. every time my son saw his dad he said he didn’t like him and didn’t want to see him anymore (he hadn’t seen him from 2 till almost 6) I kept encouraging him to see his dad even just for half an hour or so just to get to know him slowly.. his dad then disappeared again after almost 3 months of weekly visits. Now my son is totally happy with it being just me and him (and so am I) but the maintenance payments stopped when he disappeared.. I work (in my sons school) but money is tight and with a growing child it’s very tight. I know his father should be paying some kind of maintenance. Both the phone numbers I have for him don’t work and I have no other way to contact him. I know I can go through the child maintenance service but I fear me paying the £20 start fee and if they can’t find him/can’t get anything from him, I would have wasted a much needed £20…
thanks to anyone reading I hope it makes sense and someone might be able to give me some advice