hey don’t know if anyone can help, my son is 6 almost 7 (a very grown up 6-7 year old) I have been a single parent from the start, his dad was very much involved until my son reached 2, he then disappeared didn’t hear from him until just before my sons 6th birthday. He contacted me and we talked, he then came to see our son every week for 3 months, during our talk I got him to sign some paper work I created stating days and times of visits and a small breakdown of maintenance payments he would pay me. He agreed to all of this and signed and said even if our son didn’t want to have a relationship with him he would still pay regular payments to provide for his son.. every time my son saw his dad he said he didn’t like him and didn’t want to see him anymore (he hadn’t seen him from 2 till almost 6) I kept encouraging him to see his dad even just for half an hour or so just to get to know him slowly.. his dad then disappeared again after almost 3 months of weekly visits. Now my son is totally happy with it being just me and him (and so am I) but the maintenance payments stopped when he disappeared.. I work (in my sons school) but money is tight and with a growing child it’s very tight. I know his father should be paying some kind of maintenance. Both the phone numbers I have for him don’t work and I have no other way to contact him. I know I can go through the child maintenance service but I fear me paying the £20 start fee and if they can’t find him/can’t get anything from him, I would have wasted a much needed £20…
thanks to anyone reading I hope it makes sense and someone might be able to give me some advice
Hi, I’ve just gone through this with my sons father although I had his telephone number it actually didn’t help as he just ignored all the calls. They do ask alot of questions but I was told they can track someone just from their name and date of birth. Also if he refuses too pay/ignores them they can take it directly from his wages. I would ring them and ask if they would be able to find him on the details you have. Hope you get it sorted x
Thank you very much for your reply, I will wait until payday then will contact the cms. I have a fear that he will avoid paying at every chance, but maybe I should put my fear to one side and hope he pays.. I have managed for years with no payments but money is getting tighter.. My son must be having a growth spurt or something he just doesn’t stop eating lol.. I had to change jobs recently too due to childcare issues so my wages got messed up a little..
Thank you for reading my rant.. And thanks for replying you have put my mind at rest a little