Someone's advice please
9 March 2018 at 3:19 pm #8499
After being on my own for far too long I signed up on a date site just for 4 weeks and it’s now expired . I.didnt take it serious just chit chat nothing else to help me get some confidence.
I then got chatted up.by someone who appears to be a workaholic and he was supposed to call me before he left to go overseas.and he didn’t.
He told me that he was away a lot in the first place and that his job was demanding. It’s been 3 weeks now.and no messages or call. He said he was away in March but didn’t indicate when he would be back. It was all friendly and casual and I didn’t ask him as I didn’t want to appear a clingon. I did send a couple of messages showing off my baking but the messages were not read. Am I sounding a bit desperate what would you guys think???9 March 2018 at 3:32 pm #8500
I’m no expert in this field but yes you sound a bit desperate and I don’t think he’s that bothered. Of course, the one thing we all know from the age of about 15 is that the more interest you show someone the less interested they will be. So either way, keep moving on and if he gets back in touch take it from there.9 March 2018 at 3:41 pm #8501
Yes I know I.am sounding desperate i needed someone to tell me this ..i joined because I just want to forget my ex who keeps turning up with the same old claptrap . So I didn’t take on line dating serious as we both have been on our 4 ages . It was just nice to speak to.someone on the same wavelength as me ..he did all the pursuing so I’m a bit agog but I understand that he is under a lot of pressure12 April 2018 at 8:54 pm #10071
OK so this is an update from desperate me . I still have not met mystery man although we speak on and off and send each other rude jokes. There has been 2 dates that he has cancelled because of work but i told him its fine because i didnt want to appear desperate and bonkers. When we are on.the phone we don’t stop laughing and giggling and he always rings to say goodnight and we can chat upto 2 hours .
So last Saturday night he rang me and said that he would take me out once he’s back from his business trip ..i just laughed it off and said jokingly “all mouth and no action” and he told me not to date anyone until he sorts himself out. Slightly excited but think all this is weird and completely bonkers as we both live in London ! Part of me thinks it’s a windup and I’ve been chatting to some nutcase in another country12 April 2018 at 11:29 pm #10075
Let’s be honest, it is bonkers. Just think. Re-read your posts. You want to be in love, I get that. But with just anyone?13 April 2018 at 6:34 am #10078
Yes very bonkers but At least I’m. having a teenage giggle and not crying over my nasty ex who took my money when he hid his money during the divorce13 April 2018 at 6:54 am #10079
In any case empty I just want to forget my ex and the pressure of bringing up a child on my own with no relatives. I have spoken to quite a few people on line but never exchanged nos! This one has really entertained me.
My daughter had a full bladder was up 2.30am this morning and never went back to sleep so I guess today will be a lazy day. Thank goodness I don’t work on Fri-yah. have a fab weekend .13 April 2018 at 7:22 am #10080
Well, have fun. Must go now. I have a lazy bladder and a full day!13 April 2018 at 9:28 am #10083
Not to sound rude but try and concentrate on your child/ren.. I find that helps with any issue I have in life..13 April 2018 at 10:51 am #10095
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Also, before you start dating again, make sure you’re familiar with what gaslighting and lovebombing look like.
If he’s not 100% what you’re looking for, keep looking. Don’t settle for someone who doesn’t call or meet when they say they will. It won’t get better!!13 April 2018 at 12:19 pm #10105
I always put my daughter first and go without ! I just want to.forget my rotten ex who made a guest appearance in November after years of no contact and he bought 2 concert tickets takes me to dinner, spends the night in the spare room then tells me he has met someone else but she doesnt know about me and that he dont love me anymore. This ruined my Christmas and the rest of last year . I have my own money and home & i’m just looking for some light hearted fun not someone to.move in and pay my bills .
At first I felt like a teenager going on.line chatting but the fact that I have lost a stone in weight and have more confidence is great and now I have reinvented myself not trying to see on the social sites what my ex is doing has helped an enormous deal.