Solicitors with knowledge in narcissistic abuse
18 June 2021 at 8:35 pm #55449
Does anyone know of or have used a solicitors firm that have knowledge in narcissistic abuse please?
I have recently separated from my abusive and violent husband and am now back to being a single parent (I have 2 older children from a previous relationship) but to 4 children now.
Due to the financial abuse in our marriage I am financially insecure and just about managing to keep my head above water, so do not have disposable money to get a solicitor.
I have made 2 court orders on my own, Prohibited Steps Order & Non-Molestation Order which have been granted. My ex isn’t paying for any of the house bills or debts so has a solicitor.
I would really like to know if there are any firms in England that ‘gets me’ and have knowledge in narcissism and dealing with their abuse and family law.
I know there are many family law solicitors out there, but I am hoping someone might know a firm who knows about the traits, lies and deceit of a narcissistic abuser.
Thanks for taking the time to read this21 June 2021 at 2:39 pm #55512
I’m Michelle one of the Moderators here. You may find a suitable solicitor via the Family Law Panel:
Family Law Panel – A free directory service for members of the public to access professional and independent family law information. Solicitors offer an initial free advice session. N.B. Professionals who can offer support with Domestic Violence are listed with a purple ribbon next to their name. https://thefamilylawpanel.org/categories/1
You could also get in touch with Rights of Women:
Rights of Women – Free, confidential legal advice by telephone for women on a wide variety of issues. Specialist areas include family law and domestic violence. https://rightsofwomen.org.uk/get-advice/family-law/
Here’s a link to check whether you might qualify for legal aid:
Civil Legal Advice Helpline – Find out whether you qualify for legal aid and get details of local family law solicitors that provide advice and representation funded by legal aid 0345 345 4 345 https://www.gov.uk/civil-legal-advice
And Law Works offer pro bono via volunteer solicitors:
LawWorks – A charity working in England and Wales to connect volunteer lawyers with people in need of legal advice, who are not eligible for legal aid and cannot afford to pay and with the not-for-profit organisations that support them. https://www.lawworks.org.uk/
I hope that those links are helpful
Michelle21 June 2021 at 2:46 pm #55514
am not sure if using a solicitor that has knowledge about narcissism will make much difference. has your ex applied to court for child arrangement order?21 June 2021 at 5:36 pm #55519
Thank you Michelle for the info I will take a look.21 June 2021 at 5:50 pm #55520
The reason I ask specifically for that type of professional is that there are certain traits that the trained eye will know about and will then better be able to pick it out from the crowd, if you get what I mean.
Example: Contacting your family member
This could be seen as a form of emotional abuse or trying to manipulate your support group
Part of the ‘flying monkey’ tactic that if you have knowledge of, will know how damaging for the victim it can be and can be better described this to a judge/others to give the level of abuse someone is/has inflicted.
I hope this makes a bit more sense? Yes, my ex has applied for child arrangement order.21 June 2021 at 9:32 pm #55523
I think it will be difficult to catch those people out. people with personality disorders can fool courts easily. also from my experience, court tend not to take these things seriously (especially if there’s no medical diagnosis) and will see it as parental conflict and not focusing on the children.22 June 2021 at 6:08 am #55527
Good luck finding one. My ex was a narc too. I kept insisting to my solicitor about his narcissistic traits. Most solicitors unfortunately have no clue what is narcissism. Some will gaslight you and think that you’re diagnosing your ex. Even warn you of the negative impact it has on your side. Also unless the court directs for mental health assessment of your ex it will be difficult to proof that. Fingers crossed for you. X25 June 2021 at 1:12 am #55654
I am following this thread with the same hopes as you.11 July 2021 at 12:14 am #56382
Try Louise Halford at Evolve Family Law in Holmes Chapel. She is my solicitor and understands narcs as she divorced one too.