29 March 2018 at 10:24 am #9342
I’m a single mum, unemployed with 3 year old twin daughters and I’m struggling with money. I get my shopping, electricity, pay for wifi and I’m skint for the rest of the week. I rely on my parents a lot. I’m moving into a new house and have NOTHING, welfare is getting me a few things but other than that I’ve nothing to decorate, my clothes are old, my daughters clothes are getting too small, and sometimes my fridge is empty.. I can’t find any other ways to help me get some more money. Not ready for work as I’m the only one who can take my daughters to school and pick them up, and also struggling with depression29 March 2018 at 10:33 am #9343
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They will give you some great ideas of where to go to sort you out. Phone them for free and just chat.29 March 2018 at 4:34 pm #9353
I am a single working mum to a 3 year old autistic child. I have reduced my hours to 3 days a week so that I can go to hospital appointments . My little girl attends private nursery which is paid from the tax credit . I also have a big mortgage & have worked all my life . You will get more help by hmrc if you worked part time as they will top up your salary. I also get disability benefit for my daughter but that pays for private speech therapy once a week.
I don’t have parents & my siblings live very far for them to come and help when I’m not well.
I take my daughter to nursery then I go to work and pick her when I finish. In September I will take her to school which means starting late and the lady at church will collect her and wait an hour until I get home. Like all parents I want the best for my child . My daughter gets the best because I am very proud that i work . You can do anything you want to because my mother brought 4 children up on her own before she met my dad .
It is very easy to get depressed but if you worked you will get out and meet people and you will still get benefits Where do you live as I am in London?29 March 2018 at 6:33 pm #9355
I just don’t feel ready for work yet as my anxiety can be really bad but I’ve applied for so many to work around my daughters nursery times and get no reply and I’m in scotland29 March 2018 at 7:03 pm #9356
Have you thought about working in a nursery? You might have to do a short course but at least it will make it slightly easier. Good luck29 March 2018 at 11:14 pm #9358
I have worked in a nursery before but the ones close to home are all fully staffed, not sure I’d be ready to be with kids constantly, really don’t know what I wanna do30 March 2018 at 2:47 pm #9376
Have you thought about joining a agency working in care homes? As you can choose when you want to work? Maybe your parents can help out with child care when your at work? I work full time and still struggle at times . I have a good support network with my ex husband’s family and my family who help me out. But ex husband does not help or support his daughter at all. As a single parent we do rely on our parents a lot but it nice that they have a loving caring relationship with both sets grandparents. I think key is to build a network of support and not feel guilty about it. As it can be very lonely and hard being on your own with children.