It all started when I fell pregnant after seeing someone for 2 months. I found out after I was pregnant after I didn’t hear from him for a few weeks, he then came back on the scene and we moved in together. Exactly one year ago, when our baby was 8 weeks old, he confessed to me that he had been seeing someone else and he had another baby on the way. It was a long and hard journey but we got through it and stayed together and became very strong, anyone looking in from the outside can see this is a huge mistake, but being in this situation I wanted to move on and have a family for my baby girl. I am now in the hardest situation anyone could possibly be in, he’s constantly blowing hot and cold, the bad moments are torture but the good times I feel like a princess. one minute he’s planning our future and the next he doesn’t want to be with me anymore. I am now currently 14 weeks pregnant and have a toddler of 15 months old and have been left once again by my partner out of the blue. I’m so desperate for support as being in this situation i am in so much pain and I’m not surrounded by friends and family. How am I going to cope with a baby and a toddler on my own 😪 can anyone relate being treated this way and now stuck in this situation?
Thank you for reading x
I think you’ll cope far better than you think on your own, once you’re off the emotional merry go round he’s creating, I imagine it will be easier still. I’m sorry to say it, but it does sound like he’ll tell you what you want to hear when it suits him, and thats really not fair on you, given you’re 14 weeks gone, the stress on you and the the baby isn’t good. Perhaps you need to concentrate on yourself and your toddler for now. You need some peace, and it doesn’t seem the current situation is providing that for you.
Is there no way you could get back to somewhere closer to friends and family maybe?
I have just went through something similar, was with a guy for 4 months when I found out I was pregnant, he was all happy to start with then started pulling away, blowing hot and cold etc. I knew something wasn’t right and broke up with him – he then showed his true colours.
He sounds like a very negative impact on your life. You can and will be able to do this alone, don’t doubt yourself for a minute. Your kids will get all the love and support they need from you.
If you need support you have everyone on here, I quickly learned this is a great site with very supportive people!
I know how you feel, I am in a difficult situation and have no family or friends nearby for support. I have been feeling very lost some days, but you’re better off without someone who is as unstable as your ex.
I’ve found a lot of practical advice online, maybe contact a local womens group and see if they have any information that might help you out?
When lockdown lifts I’m going to making more of an effort to go to parenting groups. I figure making friends is a good place to start in regards to making my life more full.