Single, pregnant and suicidal.
21 March 2021 at 8:20 am #51761
Hi everyone, I have been recently dumped by my partner of 2 years and I’m 4 months pregnant. We got back together after splitting up for a few months. We had a miscarriage last year back in March which used fertility tablets to get me pregnant as I have PCOS. We fell pregnant naturally in dec 2020. I’ve been suffering with perinatal depression throughout the pregnancy and he has said he can’t take it. He wants to be happy and that’s not with me. But apparently will be there for the child. We had an early gender scan mid week but that didn’t change his feelings. He says he doesn’t love me anymore at all. I feel so down and depressed and can’t stop stalking his page to see all the new girls he’s trying it with. I don’t know how to get over this, how can I spend the next 5 months even pretending to be happy? I can’t even get out of bed I’m so down, my hygiene right now is awful. I’ve always wanted a child, especially a little girl. Now I’ve got her I’m considering abortion because I don’t know if I can take being a single mum so soon. I want the perfect family set up so bad 🙁21 March 2021 at 9:06 am #51764
I am so sorry to hear you are going through this. Talk to your doctor about what you are going through. They could prescribe some antidepressants that will help balance the hormones and take the edge of the intense emotions you are feeling right now. But you really need to see a counsellor as well to help you talk things through and make good decisions for you and your baby. Don’t worry about bringing the child into the world as a single parent. Plenty of women have done it in the past and their child has been their life and their joy. I remember struggling a lot with anxiety and depression when I was pregnant and afterwards. But holding my daughter and breastfeeding brought me so much natural comfort. Have you any family or friends nearby who can help you? Hopefully, by the time you have your baby there will be loads of mother and baby groups open by then and they could be a great support. You never know, once the baby is born, the father may pull up his socks and take responsibility. But even if he doesn’t, you can do this. Wishing you and your baby all the best.21 March 2021 at 10:04 am #51786
I don’t know I can do much to help apart from say you can and will get over this. There are people out there who can offer you help and support. We can not change the situation but depression is real and you need to think about calling your GP and being honest. Don’t try and do this alone. Reach out. Help will be there ❤️21 March 2021 at 11:47 am #51795
So sorry to hear that you are feeling like this, but I was in exactly the same place as you not so long ago had to leave my entire life behind and flee to a woman’s refuge with my children, best thing I did was called my gp who prescribed me some anti-depressants and it got me through that awful time & I’ve come out the other side please don’t suffer in silence and when you have your little girl, it will all be worth it. Once all the baby groups are running again they are great to go to, to meet other mums. You can get through this, remember your hormones are all over the place at the moment so please don’t beat yrself up about the way you are feeling but please do reach out for help. Good luck xx22 March 2021 at 12:39 pm #51860
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