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    My ex boyfriend left me a month after I became pregnant for another girl (I didn’t know I was pregnant at the time). I found out at 5 1/2 months along that I’m pregnant because I was so busy working in the Covid units that I missed the signs also I was on birth control the entire time. By the time I found out I was way away from the abortion time where it was as simple as taking a pill and only had 1 week until I couldn’t have an abortion full stop.

    I couldn’t go through with the procedure because it didn’t sit right with me. My ex boyfriend told me he wants nothing to do with me or the baby and threatened me if I tried to claim any child support from him. I’m now 3 weeks away from my due date and I’m struggling. I have no support. My family tell me to get on with it because I’m not the only person who’s ever been pregnant and it’s my fault anyway.

    My friends all stopped talking to me because they accused me of hiding being pregnant until it was convenient for me.

    I’m struggling so much mentally right now and financially as I had to pay for two lots of rent this month and have no food. I’m honestly at a loss what to do. I’m struggling so much and I don’t know how to help myself.

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    Andrew uk

    Hi. Message me if you want to chat. Here to offer a chat if it helps. Is there anything locally that will support you? Im sorry you are struggling. Well done for all your hard work on the covid unit. Do you have support for when you go into hospital?

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    I’m so sorry to hear you are struggling and going through all of this. It’s not the same but I had a 3 year old and 1 year old when I first became alone. I contacted the health visitor after my ‘husband’ left and they were really good and supportive. They might be able to offer some help and guidance? If you feel confident enough to, I would speak to your midwife and see if they can support you too. Really hope you manage to get some help.

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    Hello. I am a mum a girl. Father of the child abuses me very much. He calls me very badly. I am so upset. He also doesn’t want me to see my parents. They live abroad. I am very upset. Can anyone help me? What should I do?

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    I’m so sorry to hear you’re situations @blazettfu and @juslen . I would definitely confide in your midwife @blazettfu , and hopefully they can also connect you with other sources of help. Also if you want to talk to a trained person, organisations like Breathing Space and The

    offer a listening ear on the phone 24/7 , 365 days a year. They say on their website “whatever you’re going through, a Samaritan will face it with you”. Good luck . I really hope you both get the support you need . ❤️



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