Hi there. I’m 39 with 2 boys 12 and 7 this month. My youngest has been disabled since he suffered a stroke at 3 weeks. I’ve been apart from their father since 2014. No relationships have worked out since and tbh I’ve kinda given up now!! Anyway I’m just wondering if there is anyone else out there in the same situation. My son will never be independent so like it to live at home for life. I’m really finding it hard to accept tyat this is how my life is now going to be. I’ve totally lost who I am. I can’t work as I’m his carer and regularly called to school or at hospital apts. How do I meet people? How do I get on with my life? Or learn to accept tgat this is it!!
Oh and just a footnote, their dad has not had then for over 2 years. My oldest wants nothing to do with him due to his drug abuse and domestic violence and more recently the emotional abuse he subjected him to. He we seeing my youngest at a contact centre until 4 months ago and made no effort to see them since. He has not provided for them financially or other in nearly 2 years except for 2 payments by deduction of earnings through CMS then he left his job again. I know really I should allow him access to my youngest as I also get no respite however I believe it would be more damaging than advantagous to my son.