single parents 45 + school aged children degree full time coping financially?
9 September 2021 at 5:18 pm #58980
I would like to hear from you, if you are in the same boat as me. I am a single parent with children going back into full time education starting a degree
very soon. I am worried about money and how many people who feel like me; odd one out? Lonely and 55 lol10 September 2021 at 11:31 am #59013
Thank you for posting on our forum. I’m Carmen, one of the moderators here at Gingerbread. I hope it won’t be too long before other parents start chatting with you. I’m sure there will be others who are in similar situations.
In the meantime I can recommend that you call our single parent helpline as they can advise you about financial issues which might be helpful. The advisers will be able to talk you through what’s happening now and will be able to help you to explore your options. It may take a little while to get through so please be patient. Here are their details:
• Gingerbread Single Parent Helpline – Freephone 0808 802 0925
Opening hours: Mon 10 – 6, Tues 10- 4, Wed 10 – 1 & 5 – 7, Thurs 10 – 4, Fri 10 – 4 They can be busy so callers can expect to wait up to 20 minutes before the call is answered
I hope this information is useful
Carmen10 September 2021 at 3:14 pm #59031
Hello. I’m Andrew dad of 2, son 9 daughter 4. I’m 5015 September 2021 at 11:46 am #59212
Hi, I’m about to start the same journey 4 kids from 8-17 I am terrified about the finances, there is so much conflicting information isn’t there 😅 I don’t know if I’m allowed to work part time as I’m hoping I will still get a little bit of UC but they are pretty useless in terms of knowing anything really frustrating xx19 September 2021 at 5:18 pm #59753
Hi, not odd one out at all! I am 44, newly separated. One child in uni, one working. My financial situation had changed a lot. Hoping to see light at end of the tunnel at some point!
how are you doing now?19 September 2021 at 10:05 pm #59765
@hmsmith, I know of a Man about 7 years ago who was the only of taking care of the two daughters because the Wife walked out of the marriage and he did the job with so much passion such that when he was going to move to another city he got lots of positive review from people around.
I just want to encourage you that you keep doing all you can to make those children a better person and I can beat my chest that you would be proud of them sooner that you can imagine.19 September 2021 at 10:09 pm #59766
@ Jellybean2020, You don’t need to nurse any sort of fear,I strongly encourage you to take up the challenge and watch how event unfold as you cater for those kids with ease…..
Do not be terrified
19 September 2021 at 10:13 pm #5976920 September 2021 at 3:45 pm #59803
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Hi I’m 49, I have two grow children, a 14 year old and 4 grandchildren. I thought my life was mapped out until two months ago when my husband decided to leave. Total shock and struggling massively with it all. So so lonely, the evenings are worst. Everywhere I go feels like Im missing something terrible and I cant breath. I scared to death about everything. Can totally identify with your worries x20 September 2021 at 4:09 pm #59804
Hi. Sorry it’s tough. Make sure you plan lots of nice things to do on holiday. It will give you the chance to have some time with your son.20 September 2021 at 7:22 pm #59818
59 year old with a 6 year old. Single parent. Another aged 8 and a daughter aged 14. I aint gonna say its easy but i am going to say its still fun. Cant think of anything id rather be doing…except maybe sleeping.20 September 2021 at 9:39 pm #59821
I have been through similar situations I am 52 and have 4 kids my eldest moved out 2 years ago after finishing uni and now is in a well paid job that she loves second eldest has just gone to uni for the second time to study medicine third child just gone uni to study psychology and my youngest is starting second year at college my finances have changed a lot over the years I work part time so I am still entitled to some support with housing benefit and council tax being a single parent has been challenging especially as the 2 Dads have never been supportive financially or emotionally. To be honest right now I’m feeling a bit lost having 2 kids leave for uni at the same time feels strange I’m trying my best to not think about it even though the house is very quiet it’s hard to make a life for yourself when you are so use to being a mum I need to motivate myself and start taking better care of myself I have to stay positive and keep moving forward 😧21 September 2021 at 2:53 pm #59841
@Tracy72 …. It’s saddening and devastating when you get walked out on by your partner and it sure does really hurt…You sure would get so lonely as against when you were doing most things together..I advice you take things easy,map plans to spend more time with your kids and the grandchildren and with time you would find your feet as you deserve more of life and plenty of love…All the best..21 September 2021 at 2:59 pm #59842