I wonder if there is anyone here that could help me. I’ve literally just been told by my ex husband that he will no longer be paying towards our children as he can’t work due to illness. I’m stressing myself out so much as I know there is no way I can do it alone and I’m worried my children are now going to miss out because I cannot provide for them. I am so upset and just don’t know which way to turn, I’m already in debt from my previous partner taking money from me and not paying it back and now this! I’m working two jobs and claiming universal credit but I physically cannot do anymore.
Hi Sam. Did you phone the helpline? Let us know how you got on. Do you know if you ex husband gets any kind of sick pay or does his income suddenly stop? I’ll happily advice for as long as you need it.
I assume that this is an informal maintenance agreement?
If so. I would explain to him that you will be going to the CMS directly. Rule of thumb is that on most benefits the NRP still contributes – though usually at a rate of £7 a week – so not oodles but better than nothing. He may then review his statement if not immediately make the claim as it wont be backdated further.
If he receives sick pay – full or SSP then you’ll still get payments though they will probably be reduced. Is the cause of his current inability to work a permanent ongoing disability or something that is likely to improve?
My initial suggestions are all practical – try to reduce your outgoing costs as much as possible – look at utility comparison sites etc, end subscriptions to Sky or similar, meal plan and only buy what’s on the plan – after using a comparison site to see which supermarket is cheapest etc. Reduce petrol costs etc by walking – shop around for insurances etc. Many people find second hand shops are a God send – I personally prefer sales.