Single mum in Herefordshire looking for friends
25 May 2020 at 5:59 pm #40354
Hi. My name is ally and I’m a single mum to a 3 yr old daughter. I don’t have friends that I hang out with even before lock down so I am always at home and never really go anywhere to meet people. I sometimes suffer with mental health issues and I have anxiety too so I do struggle to cope with single parenthood and life in general at times. I get very lonely at times and find that I bottle feelings up as I have no one to talk to. It often feels like I’m the only parent that feels like a failure the whole time and that I just seem to get everything wrong. I find that alot of people on here are miles away so would be nice to find people more local to me.25 May 2020 at 9:14 pm #40358
I’m not that close to you as i’m in North Wales but didn’t want to read and run. I too don’t have many friends and none that are local, i lost touch with a lot of people when i was with my ex husband, he didn’t like me to have friends, go out or make any decisions. Although i have 4 children I feel really lonely I can go days without speaking to another adult especially now that i am working from home and it often gets me down, i spent an hour crying yesterday once the kids were in bed because i was so fed up. My kids spend most of their days in front of a screen, i have to literally scream at two of them to do any school work, I’ve deactived facebook because i’m sick of all the’ look how amazing i am at home schooling ‘ and what a wonderful mother i am posts, i can’t even get two of mine off the xbox.
I also tend to bottle things up, i don’t want to burden my mum or sister with anymore of my crap i think they have had enough of all my drama hence me crying into a pillow last night. I do feel a bit better today though and i also find keeping a diary helps. I constantly feel like a failure but the way i see it all of my children are still alive and this week so far none of them hate me (i know it is only Monday but already doing better than last week) so i can’t be doing that bad a job.
Susan25 May 2020 at 10:36 pm #40363
Hi Susan. Thankyou for your message. I completely get where you are coming from. I don’t look at my Facebook anymore as like u say its all people doing amazing things and it just gets me so down thinking I’m not achieving anything. My daughter is constantly having tantrums all the time and yet her dad says she is always so good for him. It really annoys me even tho he says he disciplines her but I don’t think he does. She has such an attitude when she comes back to me and I’m just constantly exhausted as well as having back issues. People wonder why I’m always so down and tired and not much fun.26 May 2020 at 10:13 am #40379
My six year old had an epic 45 minute tantrum the other day while i was on a work call, great fun. The only thing i have achieved on lockdown is eating too much cake and putting on half a stone, there are far too many people on facebook posting picture looking for approval from people they don’t even know particularly well I take it all with a very large pinch of salt. I mean do we really need to know you cooked a 3 course meal from scratch, i got mine a pizza hut last night and they said it was the best food ever 😂.
I find it hard to believe she’s a little angel when she’s with her dad and lets face it even if she turns into satan when she’s with him he’s never going to admit it. My ex used to tell my kids to be really naughty when they got home and fill them full of sweets, unfortunately for him our youngest son can’t keep a secret and used to tell me everything.
It is exhausting having a small child at least mine are able to do stuff for themselves.26 May 2020 at 12:08 pm #40389
Thanks for your message. Yes my family have said that he probably does tell me that to make me feel bad but it does. I feel as tho she’s happier with him than woth me. I’m finding things very tough atm and I’m just constantly exhausted.30 May 2020 at 7:02 pm #40505
I’m also a single mum from Herefordshire! I don’t have a lot of friends and also worry that being a failure as well, especially as I’m a single parent for the 2nd time, talk to me whenever 😊
Vicky10 June 2020 at 10:24 pm #40849
I’m from Hertfordshire too 😆10 June 2020 at 10:35 pm #40850
I have found this week that more and more people have been saying that their kids just spend so much time in front of the screen! It’s just amazed me how it’s like people now are putting this perfect show to bed and the reality is coming out!
Don’t forget that when your daughter goes to your ex house, it’s going to be like a holiday, she can probably do what she wants, gets spoilt etc because he only has her for short periods of time. But for you, you have the hardest job. And don’t beat yourself up – as long as you can say you have done your best, then you and her will be just fine! Xx