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    Mum20091719
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    I’m a single mum to 3, I did not want my 3rd I know it sounds awful but i knew I wouldn’t cope , but perinatal and people around me and ex said I would manage I suffered with postnatal depression after my second and ptsd an then had perinatal mental health involved during 3rd pregnancy , it hard I cant cope I have nobody to have kids or help I just want to run away and never come back I love them but my house is a mess my eldest seems to just hate me im just a climbing frame I cant wee without a kick  off  my house is getting destroyed I have no fight I had no choice and I’m in this situation just full of resentment snd anger ot should been my choice he dosnt have them weekend as there hard work the eldest isn’t his and she wount go to her dads for other reasons im lost 8 need help

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    Gingey28
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    Hi hope ur ok. I know u said u arent i am here to listen if u need to talk. I feel like same atm for a different reason but know how hard is when mentally you feel low

    Message me if you need

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    Mum20091719
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    Thankyou I just don’t know if I’m coming or going all I want to do is just sleep I keep trying to get there dad to take them they would be better off with him then me but he wount 😢

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    Newbeginnings2020
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    Have you asked any agencies for support, you can ask school or local council to refer you to early help or Barnados?  Just a thought, not sure if they offer that where you live.  It’s tough on your own, especially with 3.  Wen they are in school (if they are school age) do you get time for yourself?  Even if it is a 20 minute walk with fresh air?

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    Gingey28
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    Hi i know what u mean. I feel similar feelings but you are super amazing remember that and fact you talking means u are seeking first bit of help.

    We all struggle and if u dont get help off the Dad its going to be tough. My sons Father isnt involved at all I’ve had brill family support but I now have to isolate with my son ita hit me hard today as i cannot have any help or escape from these 4 walld and same for my son

    Please keep talking im always on this daily and now im in for another 12days i have plenty of time to chat

    My son wont let me wee either or shower in peace. He also is 3 and has kick offs and i feel myself stressed a lot and he plays up more at home and now gotta be in constant it is daunting

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    Mum20091719
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    Hello no they are 1 ,2 and 11 im with homestart bug with covid helps not here only on phone no I always have 1 xx  he sees them but at mine he’s not as hands on as he wax with our first hes not a bad dad there hard work and they alway want me haha yes same the 2 lo will literally cry throught the shower  I had a wee today asked 11 year old to keep an eye on him I was less then two min walked out and hes eating his poop out of his nappy she had him in her room I asked if I could have a wee is everything  okay i just cant cope or manage them if she didn’t want to keep an eye on him she could of said no x I just don’t get how crap I am x

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    Gingey28
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    Hi hope you are ok. Here to chat if needed. How is your morning going

    Me and my son are isolating im trying to mentally keep it together tough on him he is 3 so cant really explain why we arent going out. Hope it goes well

    Sounds like u got a lot going on at home. My son still not toilet trained so i had a poo down leg in his clothes on my bed drama last night

    I cant smell anything as i have this virus so thats only thing i can say was a positive about the poo issue last night

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