Single Dad On the edge

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    Kanger3
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    my ex left me when my little girl was 7 months. The most painful thing to ever happen as that little girl was the best thing to happen to me.

    I am a great dad but struggling to make new friends. The groups I take her too are mostly women and I don’t feel like I fit in. Certainly don’t feel like I can impose myself on them for the benefit of my little one. I try to talk to them but rarely people talk to me.

    Reading some of these posts I understand others are in more tragic situations as I do get to see my little girl and that time is amazing. but I’m on the edge right now lying awake most nights.  I’m 2.5 years in and the most miserable I’ve ever been. My work allows me so much free time which I always saw myself spending time with her.  However, when not with her I’m paranoid about her mum finding someone else and there being another male influencing my little ones life.

    I’m not sure what can be advised, I’m feeling so low right now and getting no support from family to help me. Hence turning to this community.

    #26874 Report

    PeterD
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    Hi K

    Im a single parent of 3. However I have full custody as their mother simply up and left.

    The feelings you are having are normal and nothing to worry about. I had the same terrible feelings when the children lived with her. You have to stay strong for the little one.

    I have found this community to be very helpful indeed especially when I’ve hit a low point what I didn’t realise is that so many people are let’s say in the same boat

    I’m in my mid 50s and classed myself as the stereotypical male and that talking was pointless.How wrong I was.

    Gingerbread has been a  of breath of fresh air for me.

    Keep in touch

    P

     

    #26879 Report

    Pedromidlands
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    I think maybe you need to take time to find out your rights and see if you can push for custody, your fears are genuine as you care.

    don’t create an issue get Information on your situation and do as many practical things you can, not only will you feel better than doing nothing , it may help the situation…

    keep posting

    this place has helped me through a lot recently

    #26880 Report

    Kanger3
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    Thank you PeterD. I wish I did have full custody. She is the most precious thing in the world to me and the one thing I waited so long for.

    I understand so many people are in the same boat, I guess it’s hard too that the few people I know are happily together as a family and doing things families do which is something I should be doing. Hopefully I’ll find some comfort being able to talk here. Thank you.

    #26881 Report

    Kanger3
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    Thank you Pedro, I’ll look in to see where I stand. I don’t want to do anything to affect her mum as she’s doing a great job and sacrificed her work to have her 2/3 full days a week. When she starts school things will be different as I can do pickups everyday so see her more. Apologies that i only just found this website but will spend some time now going through other posts. Thank you.

    #26883 Report

    PeterD
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    Hi K

    It’s a pleasure.

    My work involves dealing with the public.

    When I see happy families it makes  me think if only I wish that was me☹️☹️

    As I say you have to stay strong for your own sanity.

    You need to start to find out rights.Once you do things will get easier for you.If you don’t your mind will play tricks on you.

    Give me a shout anytime.

    P

     

    #26906 Report

    Kanger3
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    Thank you Peter, appreciated. I was saying the exact thing to a mate today. All I ever wanted was to be a family. Will certainly check legal.

    I had her tonight and had a lovely evening with her.

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