Hi there, I’m new to this site but could some support from other single parents. I have a son who is 15 and lives with me as he didn’t want to live with his mum, we broke up when he was a baby. I also have a beautiful baby girl just 4 months old whose mother is a different woman and our relationship came to an end a month ago.
I know that we can’t be together, she suffers from insecurities and was convinced I was having affairs. Several times a month the allegations would fly around. We even had an open phone and iPad policy so she could check and reassure herself. However even innocuous comments on Facebook would send her into a frenzy of accusation. It got to the point that we couldn’t even walk down the street together without her insisting I was trying to pick up other women. I don’t think she’s very well really.
But it now our relationship has ended, it was too much, all the things she did I just kept forgiving and telling her it was ok, but it kept happening over and over again. Eventually even the ultimatums that I’d leave if she carried on became repetition. She’s changed how I feel about her… I just can’t trust her to not keep breaking up our lives with ridiculous fantasy.
So here I am, a single dad again at 40 and I just feel humiliated. So stupid for being in this position yet again. And really angry with my daughters mother for putting us through this so many times.
Now we have to try and navigate as single parents for the second time. I just don’t want it to be acrimonious or the emotional hell that it was with my sons mother. Any advice from people who have been here as well?