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  • 8 January 2019 at 12:52 pm #19457 Report

    Daddy
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    I’m separated since 2 years.  My son spend money 4-5 Night st mine and usually the whole weekend. I’m still paying child maintenance.  How can I prove my son is most of the time with me . Any idea?

     

    8 January 2019 at 7:13 pm #19476 Report

    SOLOMUMMY
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    I would make a claim for child benefit and potentially tax credits. If she doesn’t dispute then it should be as simple informing them and you opening a claim against her for maintenance if via cms.

    8 January 2019 at 7:18 pm #19477 Report

    Daddy
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    Thank you your answer .  De are not divorce yet  . We don’t have any city order. How can I prove that my son is with me most of the time ..  in the last 1.5 years.  And I kept paying.

    8 January 2019 at 7:52 pm #19480 Report

    SOLOMUMMY
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    If no order and not via cms why are you paying?

    8 January 2019 at 8:02 pm #19483 Report

    Daddy
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    I’m paying since I left. And once I stopped and she’s called a cms. And they asked me how many nights  he’s spending at mine I said the truth min 4-5 nights week.  But she said 1 or 2 nights only. 🙁

    8 January 2019 at 8:53 pm #19485 Report

    SOLOMUMMY
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    Do you get the child benefit?

    8 January 2019 at 9:23 pm #19486 Report

    Daddy
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    Never ever

    8 January 2019 at 10:16 pm #19489 Report

    3Clicks
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    Hi

    I will suggest you visit a citizen advice bureau. Normally you are eligible to receive child benefit and possibly tax credit because he spends more time with you..

    Keep receipts of items you buy for him even groceries. If correspondence regarding your son comes through your address, then you also have a good chance of proving it. Go through your chat with her you might find messages that signals towards him staying these number of nights. The citizen advice staff should be able to work with these proofs. Its her words against you .

    You might also take loads of pictures & video recordings.

    9 January 2019 at 2:02 pm #19512 Report

    Daddy
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    Thanks for advice . I have lots of picture’s evidence.  Just December I have had him 19 nights .  That’s an average.

    From today I stop paying child maintenance.  Also start collect all receipts from clothes.  Usually I  buy a lot.

    I had enough to pay her for nothing and she’s got all the  benefits.  I don’t want  benefits.  But I’m not paying anymore.  Specially if I don’t have to.

    2 years I’m paying every month.

    I’d like to have him full time but she’s never let me because of the benefits etc. She’s living a council house and she’s got lodger. Which is not aloud. And my son and step daughter and my ex sleeping in a same room same bed. Step daughter 10 years old.  That’s not right .  🙁

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