Single and pregnant
26 August 2019 at 7:28 pm #29533
Hello everyone am new hear and I have most of today reading through this forum which has been really helpful. Let me tell you a little about my current situation I am mum to a 17yrs son who I had when I was 18 I have bought him up practically as a single parent and he is amazing. I started seeing a guy a few months back anyway I found out I was pregnant and he asked me to get an abortion which I absolutely said no to. I know why he asked as he has 2 young kids but a past relation and they had only been separated for 9 months but its not something I can not allow myself to think about. He has said he will support me whatever I decide but it feels like it’s all talk its been over a week now I have not heard from as I suspected him of cheating. I am 12 weeks pregnant next week and just feeling very alone and not really sure what to say to my family I have not even told work yet. Thanks for reading it was just to get it off my chest really.27 August 2019 at 11:20 pm #29581
I wanted to reply to you and say hello.
Its very easy for me to say this: you need to work out what you want. Ignore everyone else. Do you want this baby, taking into account you’ll bring him/her up alone? If yes, embrace it, tell your family and go with it. If you think it’s wrong for you, then you are within your right to make a different decision. No-one can take the decision from you in terms of what you do next.
I hope you manage to work out what’s best for you. Take care of yourself.28 August 2019 at 6:38 am #29585
Thank you Pumpkin! I have already made the decision a baby is a blessing it may not be the greatest of situations but they sure will be loved and taken cared of.28 August 2019 at 8:18 pm #29636
Hiya, just wanted to say I know how you feel, I was single and pregnant last year, and at the age of 39 I felt I was being judged or looked at by people thinking what’s wrong with her??? I’m sure they weren’t, just my head stressing me out 😂. But it’s made me a stronger person. Xx28 August 2019 at 9:31 pm #29649
So pleased for you that you’re clear on what you what. Big congratulations. You’ll be a super mama!
The best situation for any child is a home with love, safety and support. Whether it’s from one parent or two doesn’t matter; you can give your child everything he/she need to have a wonderful childhood and a well rounded person.
We’re all in what feel like crazy situations but I am beginning to realise that if we believe in ourselves, it gives a huge confidence boost. 😊 (Ha, remind me I said this on a day I feel like the worlds against me!!)28 August 2019 at 10:03 pm #29650
Hey Nicky thanks for the message I am trying so hard to to focus on other people’s feeling on my situation but as you have pointed out it’s really hard expecially as am so early in the pregnancy and it’s only going to get harder as the belly grows I can handle it I hope. Glad to hear you came out of it stronger like the saying goes what don’t kill us only makes us stronger always been a great believer in it.28 August 2019 at 10:07 pm #29652
Hi pumpkin thank you very much for your kind words and that self confidence statement is very true no-one can never knock you down more people need to think like that we only get to do this life once I intend it to be positive for myself and my children. Have a lovely night