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    Firsttimemumdec21
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    I’m 9 weeks pregnant and the father isn’t interested in the baby so I feel I am missing out on sharing this special time with someone. I’m close to my family and have friends with children but it just doesn’t feel the same. Does anyone have any advice on how I can still make this feel special without feeling lonely?

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    Cloudyrainbows
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    Hi there, congratulations on your pregnancy. I separated from my ex mid pregnancy on friendly terms initially but he unexpectedly turned nasty and turned his back on our baby when I was about 30 weeks. As a normally strong, independent and confident professional woman, this totally floored me and I really was upset for our baby. So I know how you feel.

    But one thing I really do regret is how I let it affect the last 9-10 weeks of my pregnancy when I should have been the most excited. I tried t hide away, I almost felt ashamed at times when others were trying to congratulate me or discuss my upcoming new arrival. I truly regret this now and feel that I wasted too much energy feeling sad and anxious about something that I could not control and was not responsible for.

    My baby boy is now safely here and absolutely perfect. It’s hard- of course. But I wouldn’t change it for the world and gradually with time I am thinking less and less about his dad and more about the positive things I have to look forward to with my little boy.

    Surround yourself with people you trust and care about and those who will enjoy your pregnancy with you and try not to look back- easier said than done, but really important. You will be just fine

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    Scrowleyvi
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    Hi firsttimemumdec21,

    I’m also 9 weeks and on my own, but I guess my situation is a bit different as this is by choice. I wanted to say it’s possible to go through the worry and the excitement of these weeks with family but also flying solo, and to make the most of them. I’m sorry you are feeling lonely at the moment (we all get that way), but I hope you can begin to see this as a great adventure for you and future baby 🙂

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