Hi, I’m a single mom of 2. I’ve been single on and off for 2 years. The kids dad used to work away and I got used to being on my own all week. But now I feel lonely. If I meet some1 I become really clingy and paranoid he is cheating like the ex did. I end up scaring him off which puts me right back again feeling rubbish about myself. I lost contact with friends and now they have their own lives. I think I need to sort out this loneliness issue before I try and meet a new partner. Does anyone else have the same problems?
I always worked in the evenings so finding being at home all the time really hard. And same issues with dating too although my ex never cheated we had a bad relationship so now I find it hard as I am very needy and attention seeking. My friends keep telling me and I know it’s true- you have to love yourself before anyone else can. I’m trying to work through my issues to be in a better place before jumping into something new that inevitably goes wrong then I have to pick up the pieces again of shattered self confidence and worth. Best concentrate on yourself first lovely it will get better x
Yeah i met a nice guy who was honest from the start that he wasn’t looking for too serious but to see where it goes but I was so clingy that I ended pushing him away. I think I need to concentrate on making new friends and being happy by myself. At least then if I meet some1 and it doesn’t work out I won’t feel like it’s the end of the world.
You’ve got to be wise about it and make yourself a proposition as an independent person – single mums can be targeted as people who need help or need company and that can leave you vulnerable to controlling people.