Should i give up work to look after my 3 children?

[mstime]

Hi all,

Ive been wracking my brain wondering if i should give up work for a while and take time out to look after my children. Theyve recently lost their mum and im there sole carer now . The youngest is just 4 and i also have a 6 year old and a 12 year old. The youngest especially has found it very difficult to cope with the loss of his mum . I get them to school then i go off to work (part time) and pick them up again but i find the whole work/life balance difficult though im sure that would improve the more used to it i get ! ( i realise others have it harder and goodness knows how they do it).  I wouldnt need any benefits (straight away) as i will have some cash in the bank to tide me over. Im just scared that having come out of the workplace for a while that getting another job 6 months down the line may be very tough. But then again taking the time off would allow me more time with the children during their holidays. No guilt about work if their off sick. No worries about childminders. Having a little more energy for them. Preparing their dinners properly for them. Chatting to the kids properly instead of madly rushing doing the chores. My minds at rest that im just around the corner for any school emergencies etc etc.  Oh wait,i think ive convinced myself!

[Rumpy]

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[Sherinam]

Please do not give up your job . Try and reduce hours or take some unpaid time off. By reading your post I can see how difficult it is. I’ve got a little one with special needs and no one from my family helps so I have 2 child minder and a nanny that I use so that I can get to work and have time for my child as well as myself . Good luck and enjoy the holiday s X

[BluebirdSue]

I think you have answered your own question although I don’t think you should give up work completely.

[newst@rt]

Personally I would just do it x

[mstime]

Thank You x

[Linda33]

I hear your struggle. I hear you want to be there for your children at such a difficult time.

I do wonder though if work might be helping give you some stability and normality and maybe some companionship too. I wonder if it is helping you more than you think.

Would you consider reducing your hours rather than giving up work completely?

[mstime]

Hi Linda,

Thank you. Ive been considering reducing my hours further trouble is i only do 5 now and with the petrol/travelling costs of getting to my place of work and home again financially its not really an option. Also work have considered 5 hours to be a minimum for me as that suits them too. They also arent keen on me taking too much time off. To be honest ive been fed up with my work for a while now and a break would be so nice. May even start up a little gardening business or spend more time on allotment with the kids. May even take them to Disney during their holidays . I can but dream. Thank you again for your post appreciate it x

[Linda33]

I’m glad you are finding clarity. I’m sure whatever you do you will find a way through.

Wishing you all the best.

[tembolina]

Hi, you could try applying for an unpaid leave for the same duration and not have to worry about job hunting when the time is up. I hope your employer understands and are able to help. Sending you love and light

[Sherinam]

Mstime, you will find that people who advise you not to work are not working themselves. Although all jobs comes with roles and stuff that we don’t enjoy what is important is getting out and meeting people when bringing up a Child on your own is very lonely indeed  & you crave for adult company .

I went to 3 christmas parties this year  organised by my company that I didn’t have to pay for and enjoyed it because I met new people. I was working full time but reduced  my hours so that I will have more time off during the holidays for my child.

[Mancunian Single Mum]

I can’t believe I’m the 1st to say this, but haven’t you got any other family helping you out? Do u have girls or boys? What is your job? Any transferable skills etc?

Also have you got any adults round u, moving somewhere and not knowing anyone might be lonely for you!!

Take your time before any rash decisions!

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