Should I allow my children to stay with their dad?

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    L
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    Hi

    I am new to this forum as I have recently divorced from my husband.

    We have 2 beautiful children. They love seeing their dad and I have never stopped that. But with recent conversations I have had with him he says he is getting a house with the woman that broke up our marriage!

    Prior to this happening I suffered emotional abuse from him for 4 years until one day I plucked up the courage to say I didnt love him and i couldnt go on like this. I tried for us to go to relate but he didnt want to know.

    But because I said what I said to him, it gave him the green light to go off with another woman, whilst I was at home raising our 2 small children.

    The last 12 months have been so tough with it being lockdown and homeschooling my children I have also had to sell my home and file for divorce, all of which are complete.

    My children have been extremely upset with what has gone on. I know when that time comes when their dad has a house with another woman it will destroy them as they think it’s just daddy. I really dont know what to do. Any advice would be welcomed.

    Many thanks x

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    warwickshire1
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    It depends on what your current contact arrangement your children have at moment as to what to do next

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    Paulie1968
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    It sounds as though they have been seeing their dad, and everything is going well for the children. Obvioulsy they would like their parents to be together, but thats not possibile, when you say “<span style=”background-color: #fbfbfb; color: #1a1919; font-family: Lato, sans-serif;”>My children have been extremely upset with what has gone on” what do you mean? Have they been exposed to arguments? </span> I think children need lots of reasurance and honesty at a level that they can understand, maybe when the time comes and he has moved in and you know  more such as if they have their own room ect… Ask them what they would like. But I cant see a reason to stop them staying there, assuming you have arranged contact amicably between yourselves up till now

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