Hello,
My son is nearly 7 and has been spending 3 nights a week with his dad for almost 2 years, maybe a bit more. His dad has asked for another night which I’m not happy about so I have contacted mediation. My ex is very controlling and can verbally abuse me at times which leaves me feeling quite scared and vulnerable. My son has recently started vocalising how much he misses me and I think the back and forth between me and his dad is taking it’s toll on him. I can’t explain this to his dad as he think he knows best and has always called the shots when it comes to the arrangements.
Am I wrong in thinking I can put my foot down and keep my son with me if my son is telling me he doesn’t want to go to his dad’s or should I be sending him there to keep the peace and letting his dad have access, so it is fair on him and he sees our son pretty much 50/50 because that is what he wants?
I’m looking for any advise or anyone in similar situations to help me feel I’m not doing the wrong thing by going against my son’s wishes but keeping his dad happy and him not verbally abusing me if I dare try to reason with him by putting my son first.