Shared parenting that’s not working – how to help the children?!

[BallerinaParticipant]

<span style=”caret-color: #1a1919; color: #1a1919; font-family: Lato, sans-serif; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0); -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: #f4f4f4;”>I’m all new to this forum but I’m feeling very emotional and worried so I really hope I can find someone to talk to as I don’t know where to turn at the moment. My ex husband won’t discuss the childcare arrangements (we’ve got the kids 50% at the moment). I was willing to give it a try for the sake of the children however now after almost 2 years it suddenly feels much worse and our children, especially out 8 year old daughter is really suffering emotionally.
I need to help her but don’t know how. Feeling sad and frustrated of not knowing how to speak to my ex about it all without him just yelling back at me.</span>

[KathymumofoneParticipant]

Can your daughter tell you how she is feeling? Is it the swapping back & forward between houses that causes the problem? Or something else?

Can she tell you what she would like to change? If she can tell you quietly when she isn’t under any pressure, perhaps you could explain what she said to your ex.

Have you tried talking to her teacher. Does she share her problems at school?

Why does your ex get angry? Is it because he thinks you want to reduce his 50% or is it financial?  Surely he doesn’t want to cause her distress.

Can you swap holiday and term days to suit your daughter better? Or can he come and do bedtime routine at your house as a compromise?

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