Recently i realised that my husband is not in love with me anymore, he has talked down to me for years and has shut down emotionally. We have been together for a long time and have children but our relationship is broken. I know separation is the only way as my self esteem is very low because of the constant emotional abuse that i have put up for years and i know i need to put the children’s happiness first but how can i become strong for the children as all i do is cry all day when i am at home i feel so broken and don’t know how to start again i am so scared of the future.
Maybe you need to write down your options and see which one you feel most comfortable with at the moment. So maybe try talking to him could be an option, maybe not ideal if he’s emotionally abusive, but it’s still an option. Another could be moving out and staying with parents for a few nights, or asking him to move out, or seeking advice from someone else like your GP, citizens advice maybe? I’m not sure what to say as I was forced into the situation, but you have the time to think before you have to do anything, so take advantage of that. It is very scary, but you will get through it because you have to.
So sorry to hear you are going through a tough time , I myself separated from my partner after 27 years . It’s tough . I had to leave our family home and I am currently with my dad and 2 kids . I don’t know what road to take it’s like I am living in limbo . This is not how I saw my future . But I do have to start making my life work . my partner put me down for so many years I was just used to it . I have to get used to people being nice to me . There is a new life out there we just have to be strong and jump in but after so so many years of being told I am nothing I am ugly I am useless it’s not easy to retrain your brain . All I keep telling myself now is what would I be telling my daughters to do ? And it would not stay in that sort of relationship it would break my heart to know my daughter followed in my footsteps .