Hi,it takes time,it hits you like a ton of bricks,one day your happy then the next day your a wreck,a relationship break down is like a death so your emotions will be up and down but that’s part of the grieving process and it does get easier,I started to put a lot of focus on myself and my children,found new and old hobbies and in time I started to feel a better,surround yourself with a good support system,it will help, if u have kids,try to be civil with each other as the kids are hurting 100 times more and they don’t need arguments in their lives,and never worry about what your EX is doing or who they are seeing as that can add more complications to an already difficult situation,I’m not fully divorced yet and I’ve been through hell and back but I’m looking forward to a fresh start.