Separating with a 2 year old

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    Hi all, just looking for some advice on how to go about explaining what’s going to happen to my 2 (nearly 3) year old. She’s 3 in May and has really good understanding of words. She asks a lot of questions on a normal day if one of us isn’t at the house, so I’m not sure how she’s going to take our very fresh separation.

    My partner has just told me he wants to split and we’re definitely going through with it. I want to be as amicable as possible but as he works nights in the week, I will be taking the majority of her care. He’s likely to have her one night one weekend and 2 the next. OR every other weekend. It’s likely we’ll need to move from our family home that we only bought 2 months ago and also move her childcare.

    how do I manage a split with much less involvement from Dad, a move, and a change in childcare in a way that’s not going to mess her up? I’m so worried about how all of this is going to affect her 🙁



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    Hi sorry to hear i can relate for a bit but depends on your housing circumstances do u have to move try explaining to you ex u need time for childcare ect….or like i did let kids think tbey are going on a big adventure make some calls phone a few housing organizations deoebds were you live i suppose im in Scotland. please dont stress i know its hard but focus you show u dont need him and you can and will do this us women are made of strong stuff…good luck x

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    Hi Firstimemum, so sorry to hear about your break up.

    I separated from my little boy’s dad when he was 1 1/2 and actually moved cities, his dad now has him very other weekend. I know that it is natural for us to worry about the impact change/separation will have on our little ones but in some ways them being so young is helpful. For example, my little boy (who is now coming up to 7) has no recollection of ever living with his dad and although he has a good relationship with him he often tells me that he loves it just being the two of us 🙂 he gets me all to himself!

    I think the key is that YOU get the support that you need (be it from family, friends or groups such as this one) so you can be the constant in your child’s life and be able to give them the love and support they need to flourish, the rest will follow. Children are much more adaptable in some ways than adults, and as long as they feel secure at home then can face new challenges. Best of luck with everything, you and you child will be fine I’m sure.

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