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    Hello, I’m new here. My husband and I are beginning the process of separating. I am devastated am finding it hard to visualise any kind of future. Our kids are 7 and 5. I am due to start a PGCE in September and am just terrified about getting through it.   I’m just looking for a reassuring word or two really.

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    Hello Leight,

    All out on the sunny beaches. So I will respond.

    Most of us here have been there. Just take it hour by hour, then day by day, month by month. After some time the worst injuries will start to heal and you can start to build up a perspective again.

    The PGCE might give you just the structure in your life you need to get through this.

    The end of a relationship is not the end of the world. Only the end of the world as we know it. So a lot of new things out there to explore. You might even enjoy it.

    All the best

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    Aussie Dad

    Hi Leigh,


    I’m not sure of your personal situation but you can do anything if you try ( clichè noted).   If you have family or friends who can be of some support then that will greatly assist you getting through things.


    And depending on the arrangements you make with your (soon to be ex) hubby regarding custody of your children, and how amicable it is, then that will determine how much time you have to commit to your studies.


    Once you work those things out then it should all become a bit clearer.


    You can do it, absolutely!

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    Thank you so much for your responses. I hope the PGCE will help. I am just worried because I’m finding it hard to concentrate on anything at the moment. Can’t see any future. I hope it will get better, just can’t see it at the moment and it’s so hard to carry on for the kids.

    Thanks again for the responses.

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    Hi Leigh,

    I’m new here too. My husband left me a week ago and I’m in a similiar position to you. Feeling incredible low and vulnerable, its hard to see any positives. I have no idea how this forum works, but I’m here if you need anyone to talk to. I appreciate how weird that sounds coming from a total stranger.


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    Hi Becky

    I am so sorry you are going through this too. I just feel like I am never going to feel happy again, it’s all just so painful. And so hard to keep going for the kids. It’s going to be a long summer.

    Take care


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