Been married 20 years, felt very unhappy for 3ish years. Plucked up courage to tell my husband I wanted to leave a couple of months ago, he took it badly! Had no idea how unhappy I was but I’ve basically been doing everything by myself for the past 3-4 years. He’s said all sorts of nasty things to me since I told him, he’s like Jekyll/Hyde. Our 2 daughters are 18 & 16, the oldest is a daddy’s girl & has barely spoken to me since I said I wanted to leave (he told them while I was out at work one day even after we agreed to tell them together). The youngest is slightly better, she’ll talk to me about it a bit & seems to be getting her head round it all. When he’s in a bad mood he’ll be very nasty to me in front of the girls, I have to just take it because I don’t want them to hear the things I’d really like to shout back at him.
it’s just so hard, they’re staying here in our family home & i’ve told them they can spend as much time as they want to at my new place.
I don’t know what to say/do to make things better with them both? I’m scared I won’t see them again once I’ve moved out?