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    My husband and I are separating. We have two girls 7 and 4.

    I think in my head I know it is the right decision. We have both found new houses and ours is being sold. We have not told the girls yet and the thought of them knowing breaks my heart.

    We are still living in the same house and when he is being nice I am struggling.

    Sorry not even sure what I’m asking for in response just needed to get it off my chest.


    Thank you for reading

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    I read your post. I am also separating from my husband. I will soon need to explain to my 5 yr old whats happening and the thought of this breaks my heart.

    Like you, I know its for the best and know my husband and I need to go our different ways. Currently we still live together but in separate rooms.


    I just wanted to acknowledge you and let you know that you are not alone.  Sharing your story on this forum is the right thing to do. Just let it out when you need a bit of support.


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    Where children are young they should adapt pretty quickly. What will be really good for them is that they see their mum and dad get on and are able to be amicable . They will have 2 homes to go to and will feel loved by both parents.

    #49739 Report


    Thank you for your replies, still in the same situation at the moment. Hopefully we will have an exchange date soon and then a four week period where we will tell the girls.

    Thank you so much



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    It’s not easy and though it’s true kids adapt they also get hurt and separating/ divorce /breaking up families etc as you already know is complicated and heartbreak for most parties involved.There’s no way to whitewash it,but things might well get better further on up the line somewhere and if you do manage to stay polite and amicable it doesn’t have to be as terrible as often is.Main thing is,you’re not alone in this and theres a bunch of people on here who really do know what you’re going through!! Sending love and strength your way💌

    #49751 Report


    I am at the very start of all this, feeling terrified of the responsibility of what lies ahead, not only my life to change but my children’s too!

    #49757 Report


    Hope you’re ok & maybe time is helping?

    My husband & I have just recently decided to separate after 14 years together & we have 4 children, 10 year old & 3 under 4 years…. we have a house together which he is going to keep, just trying to sort out money & get the pratical things sorted out first then move on to the hard part letting the children know. Our eldest will be devastated, I’m worried about the routine of the smaller ones as they spend majority of their time when not at nursery with me. Husband wants to have them half & half but no idea how that works when he works full time? I work 3 days. It’s all quite amicable between us, we just don’t see a future together we’re so different & end up arguing over literally everything which is making us both so unhappy. We’re more like brother & sister than husband & wife

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