Hi all, my first post on here today, having separated from my girlfriend of 7years and a baby of 15 month old.
The reason we split up is that I went through depression once our girl was born and wasn’t very supportive. Which my girlfriend couldn’t cope with me how I was, now she didn’t know I had depression because I wasn’t able to accept this st the time and ask for help and i tried to push on through thinking everything will be fine. Since we’ve been apart I’ve seen been counciling for help which they have advised that I had post natel depression. Still working through it.
We was getting on okay upto Christmas, and over the Christmas period it was pretty much amazing. She said things to me I thought I’d never hear again. But ultimately I know there’s alot of trust issues for her in believing i won’t drop back into my old ways if we was going to give it another go.
Over Christmas I stayed over 2nights and things were great, but after Christmas her walls went back up and she said things need to be taken slowly. But sometimes I struggle with that and search for answers more than I should and put too much pressure on us, now to the point we aren’t really communicating. We do communicate about our daughter and thats about it. I really fear that I’ve pushed her away this time, I’ve never been through anything like this before and hoping someone can offer some good advice.
Thank you