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    Jsmoove
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    Hi just wanted to know if anybody is still living with their ex and co-parenting their children together,I’ve been doing this since the start of January,it hasn’t been the best experience,as not one day goes by where I don’t get verbal abuse to my face or text message,a lot of it is about money,even though I give her 2/3rds of my pay to cover the bills and when I said I was gona move out she said I was abandoning my children,so I felt really guilty,she also rubs it in my face that she has met loads of guys on dating sites,to be honest I’ve stopped caring about wat she does I just wana focus on my children as they still really don’t understand what’s going on,any advice would be appreciated.

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    Sylvie
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    That is traumatising. Her words and acts will stress you much and slide you into a depression in a long run. Your children need you, but your life is more precious.

    Think about co-parenting but staying away from each other. Make sure you still look after your children, and love them.

     

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    Jsmoove
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    Thank you for your reply,mentally I’m ok atm,I’m really close to my kids,i do agree with you long term it could lead to depression,she keeps stalling the divorce process as she wants me to give her the house,she is more interested on going on dating sites than sorting the upcoming divorce,it hasn’t affected my two younger kids but I’ve noticed change in my oldest son and I don’t think she realises this,I would think she would want to cut ties with me first,let me start fresh then pursue another relationship,so I’m in limbo atm

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    Lorraine123
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    Hi. I haven’t been through the same as you but just wanted to say I think you’re in a really difficult situation. It sounds like she’s very controlling and by telling you about her dating she’s obviously looking to get a reaction out of you. It must be heartbreaking to watch her give little thought to her children who are all going through these changes too. I think you’re doing the right thing by not letting her get to you but this is easier said than done. I hope that you can get this all sorted out once lockdown is over. Look after yourself and your children.

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    Jsmoove
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    Thank you for your reply,she is very controlling is it always been her way,the relationship ended as I started to stick up for myself,as I started to lose my identity of who I really am,but she has always been quite selfish,I just don’t know why she has to verbally attack me all the time, I feel really bad for the kids as she does it in front of them from time to time,and it makes me sick to my stomach,she thinks I’m just jealous as she has heaps of male attention,but I’m more upset the fact is the kids should come first,and I’m not stupid enough to move on so fast to someone else wen there is so much stuff to sort out,she lives in a fantasy world.

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