Separated after 20 years together

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    First post! So almost since lockdown began, I’ve taken a long hard look at my life and realised that probably for the last two years (ish) I’ve been with my husband for the sake of the kids but just didn’t fully realise it til earlier this year.

    Call it a midlife crisis hitting the big 4-0 I’ve finally told my husband that I want to separate and divorce.

    We’ve been together for almost 20 years with two boys under 8 so it really has been the most difficult decision of my life.

    I’ve been distraught for months as I battled with myself over what to do but realise this is the only way that we all truly have a chance of being happy even if it means sacrificing my kids for part of each week and have now come to some form of acceptance on this.

    In the very early stages of the process so a long way to go yet.

    Hoping for some friendly support from people in a similar situation to myself as I think you only truly understand what it’s like if you’ve been through it yourself.

    Hopefully everything will work out in the end! 🙂

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    Hi, not 20 years but me and my partner have separated after 3 years and I have a 10 month old. Really similar to you, only stayed because of the baby but knew things were not right.

    We have agreed 50/50 with our daughter but it breaks me heart not having her with me for half the week but, better that than staying in a toxic unhappy relationship.

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    It’s a tough decision you’ve made. Some might call it selfish but you love yourself too and have to be there for your own happiness. Hopefully everything will work out and most importantly your kids will understand.

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