Separated after 18 years

[claire36..]

My husband decided to leave me and our children 2 weeks ago, we are still really good friends but I am in bits as he told me he just doesn’t feel the same was about me anymore.
I am beyond devastated by this as I thought a bit of time apart would be what he needed.
I just don’t know how to act around him. Been with him since I was 17 so I don’t know what to do with myself 😢

[Lorraine123]

Hi. My ex and I were together for 17 years and separated over two years ago. I was devastated and I never thought I’d get over it. But two years on I feel different, we get on ok but don’t really see a lot of each other. I have focused on myself, doing things to make me happy and the kids are happy too. It’s a really long process to get over that sort of change but you will. Give it a bit of time and things will get better

[Cara35]

Hi Claire36,

I totally understand what you are going through. My partner left me out the blue in April. Said he thought we had grown more like friends and he wasn’t in love with me. We have spent the last 12months building a house and planning our future. We were together 16years so it has floored me. My focus is my little one but honestly it’s so hard and I fully sympathise with you. I’m still just trying to take it day by day but admitted defeat and went to my doctor for some help. I wish someone could wave a magic wand and make the situation disappear or for the pain to go away.
It helps to know that there are other people on here struggling the same way so if you would like a chat anytime just message.

[Kramerk]

My husband left last year after being together 23yrs. 2 moths before our 20th wedding anniversary. We have a 16/13&2 yr old. To say I was devastated was an understatement. It has been a year now and feels like yesterday. It has been a rollercoaster year. Things have got a little easier, but have been told that it can take a month for every year you have been together to get over. I tried to explain to him that it was as if I was grieving for a death, but worse as he’s still here. Just know you are not alone and am free to chat if you feel up to it.

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