Personally I was always taught by by own mum (aka the wise old elf), that we should only ever worry about things in our control, and that the only restrictions in life are the ones we place on ourselves. Mum brought us up as a sole parent, she worked in the mills and we (the kids) had responsibilities around the home. She was always kind and compassionate despite the hours she worked, she was exhausted much of the time but she taught us that you can achieve what you want to with persistence. We didn’t have much money but we were happy. I was definitely taught how to improvise and survive! I think our experiences build whom we are, and mental health is often about perspective/perception. Everyone is vulnerable to a blip but having someone to help you regain perspective is important. When my head feels like spaghetti, I find writing down everything that’s troubling me then I can start to prioritise as chip away at the list. Even by only achieving one thing on the list each day, the list gets smaller and the urgency of things reduces. Everyone needs time to switch off their head, running on adrenaline is not sustainable or healthy. How you choose to spend your ‘down time’ will be up to you. Consider doing something you used to enjoy pre-kids and go from there. I think life goes by way too quickly and only you know what you want to achieve from this life, I don’t consider having kids a barrier to me achieving anything, they just share my journey 😁
Thankyou. I am feeling extremely bogged down as I am going through a bitter court case and self representing with no solicitor either. It’s hard and long work which seems thankless. I am also exhausted and stressed trying to prove domestic abuse to my daughter and I without GP or police reports at the time. The courts just don’t believe me but my daughter is still at risk and its a horrific emotional burden. I’m burning out.