Hi. I’m looking for some advice during these trying times please.
I have a son whom I see every weekend from Saturday at 1pm until Sunday 8pm. I currently live with my parents at present & usually my son comes to stay at their house for this period of time for me to have contact with him. However this is now not feasible as both my parents are in a vulnerable category as they are over 70 and are staying in lockdown as per the government guidelines to prevent catching the virus.
My current partner lives an hour away & has said that I can stay with her during this crisis and bring my son back to hers for weekends only and I can stay with her permanently until everything blows over, she is also in lockdown and is only going out for essential supplies.
The mother of my child has told me that her boyfriend is regularly seeing his own children from a past relationship with no issues at all – and she expects the same from me. They both work in a care home.
My son is only 3 and I am concerned about the amount of contact he is and will be having with other people. My ex partner has said I better have my son on the 4th of April or I can F### off and leave them alone.
I would really like some advice as to how to deal with this situation.
These are trying times indeed, everything’s up in the air and nobody really knows quite what’s right or wrong to do because we all have our own unique situations don’t we?
What’s been clearly stated by the Government is that you can – and should – see your son as normal.
Being in ‘lockdown’ doesn’t mean being infected. Your current partner, who’s apparently just being cautious, has made a generous offer bless her. From what you’ve said, it sounds as if you should take up that offer because the only people at real statistical risk in your situation appear to be your parents. It would be the sensible thing to do, to move away from them for the time being – especially if you’re still working?
And don’t take your ex’s comments to heart. Not in these times. We’re all stressed. Have patience, be understanding, and don’t make any hasty decisions. Take it all a day at a time.
G’luck and God bless