I’m getting a lot of abuse from my ex and his family. Basically, we separated and he refused to give enough maintenance to allow me to stay close to his family where we lived since before having kids. So I agreed to no spousal maintenance if I could move back close to my parents for support. He agreed. Once his solicitor drew up the agreement he’s always upheld I hid my move from him and he refused it completely. Even though he let our house sale go through knowing in full that I was moving to my parents house 70 miles away.
I’ve since bought my own house and finances are okay but no real spare cash. He on the other hand has a 6 figure salary.
He is at sea and insisting that his parents should be having the kids every other weekend while he’s away as he technically lives alone when he’s in the country and so his parents are his support bubble. As I live alone with the children, my parents are my support bubble.
I don’t believe this is right as the support bubbles are there for those single parents struggling on their own. He’s at sea on a ship with loads of other crew. I feel I would be breaking lockdown restrictions handing the kids to his parents when they aren’t my bubble. Does anyone know where I can clarify this as I’m fed up with the nastiness from him and his family when I’m just trying to follow the law!!
When he was home from sea he was having the children and taking them to his parents alternate weekends as children can move between parents but I don’t feel that while he’s at sea and not even in the country he can basically palm off his parental responsibility to his parents?