School drop off and pick ups
Tagged: Am I being unreasonable
21 November 2019 at 9:38 pm #33168
The kids dad walked out when my youngest was a baby. I’ve always been extremely flexible with the child arrangements. I work part time at the moment and but I will go full time in a few months. Currently my ex has the kids twice a week and every other weekend. I do the school pick ups, then he picks up from me. He then drops them off in the morning and I take and them to school then I go to work. Recently my youngest has become clingy and it’s just a real struggle in the mornings. I asked if he’d take to school from now on. There is a breakfast club, so instead of dropping them to me at 745, he drops them to school at 8. It means it’s better for the children and I can start work earlier. He’s refusing to and threatened me with court. How will the court see this? I feel like he’s had it easy for the last few years as I’m the one doing all the running around. Why should I have to work full time and do all the school runs or have to pay for childcare. In the holidays he has then 1 day a week, if he can, but he always lets me know right at the mast minute. If we went to court how many days would they expect him to have them? And what would they expect with the school pick ups and drop offs?23 November 2019 at 3:30 pm #33216
But surely if he’s having them over night he should be responsible for taking them to school and why should it be me that has to pay for after school club so he can work a full day and pick them up when he’s finishes work.24 November 2019 at 6:27 am #33234
I would think if he did take you to court things would get sorted out for your benefit. If a judge orders when he has the children overnight it is his responsibility to get them to school, I pretty sure that would be normal. I mean when they are at home with you overnight you don’t wouldn’t expect to take them to dad’s house for him to take them to school every day, it is part of a normal day that the parent they have woke up to takes them to school. I don’t see you would have a problem with this if he took you to court. Courts look for common sense, your ex at the mo is not showing any common sense.24 November 2019 at 11:54 am #33243
Yes SM is right, if there are complicated and awkward shift patterns involved with dad it’s right to do your best to work around them but nothing you have said indicates he has shift patterns to work around, if fact the opposite. He seems to have the children at regular times.
The courts are also aware that as the children grow and life moves on these changes need to be taken into consideration as nothing stays static for long, such as you moving to full time work soon which you have the right to do and should be taken into account by the dad to support you and the children. I can’t see anything you are asking for as unreasonable or undoable. If he wants to take you to court over these things don’t worry about it, just put your case before the family judge in a common sense manner.24 November 2019 at 8:50 pm #33254
Thanks for your replies. He works for himself so can book in jobs at whatever time to suits him. It’s not like he works on site and needs to be there early. Honestly if I knew he couldn’t do it, I wouldn’t ask. It’s just 15 minutes. So drop them off at school at 8, rather than 745 to me. I really can’t see why he’s making such a big deal out of it.
Hopefully the judge will see sense.