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    I’m new to the forum, just joined because I need a little bit of advice.

    I have been with my partner for 10 years, married for 5 and we have two little boys, 4

    yrs and 3yr. My youngest has Autism and is being diagnosed now but with COVID it’s been delayed so that’s been quite stressful.

    I have come to the decision that I want to leave my husband, it’s not something I have just thought of it’s been on my mind for over a year now. I have had a couple of health problems over the past year (all sorted now) and it really showed my husbands true colours. I was in absolute agony and had to have a operation and he couldn’t cared less. I struggled through whilst looking after two toddlers and it made me realise I really don’t need him. He has a terrible temper and often loses it over the simplest things. He’s never hurt any of us but he has smashed up furniture in front of my children, my oldest is scared and as soon as he raises his voice my little boy starts crying. I work part time in the evenings and it’s got to the point where I can’t go to work without my husband ringing me telling me that he can’t cope.

    Anyways I have decided January I’m leaving, we currently rent a 3 bed property from one of his family members and I have applied to go on council list today. I have tried talking to him and saying I’m not happy but he just says that if I try and leave he will kill himself or he will take the kids and stop me from seeing them. This scares me. I have lost my confidence over the years and don’t really recognise myself now. I just need to get out.

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    What you’ve described is still abuse.  Agression  and  violence and fear.   The threat of suicide is manipulation and emotional abuse.  You need to talk to someone.  Don’t wait until January.

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    Jen D

    Talk to someone now .. Any of the help lines

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    Jen D

    Talk to someone now .. Any of the help lines .. I’ve been through similar stuff & although its hard things will get better … Talk to someone n stay strong in your decision

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