I’m a single dad with a 2 year old girl, Her mum has seen her twice in the last year and a bit but has lied to legal aid and is now receiving funding to take me to court. I’ve tried to set up a contact center which she failed to turn up for, broke numerous lawyers arrangements etc. My only worry is that the courts still seem to be bias towards mothers, I have mentioned a residency order to HV, asked my solicitor etc and they all say she hasn’t done anything extreme enough to lose her parental responsibility. It hasn’t been to court or that previously it was all arranged through me or a lawyer so this is a big change in the dynamic.
If anyone has went through this, particularly dads. How was the process? I’m receiving legal aid atm (I’m a uni student) so costs aren’t an issue at this moment, I just don’t want to spend months on it if the outcome is negligible. Apologies if this is a messy post, I’m majorly stressed over it and can barely put my thoughts down.
Anonymous is correct as far as legal aid goes. As for the rest, more information is required. If you’ve been the sole carer for your daughter for the last year then a residency order should be formalised to ensure future stability for your daughter. That doesn’t mean both parents shouldn’t have parental responsibility – the order should formalise the child’s daily life and primary carer for the forseeable future, all things considered.
Yes, the courts are hugely biased towards mothers, however if the history demonstrates the child’s best interests are served by the father being the primary carer then that is the order that should be made. Please try to set a better example than many mums do under similar circumstances, and ensure that your daughter’s mum has ample opportunity for contact in order to build an ongoing relationship with (both of yours) child. Your daughter needs both parents in her life.